LIKE AIR; LIKE SALT

Let’s do this; you probably had it demonstrated to you before, or have even done it yourself, put your beautiful phalanges around your delicate n well sculptured neck and squeeze; I’m not talking about a girly squeeze now, squeeze like your life depends on it and of course it does!




There are many ingredients I have come to discover needed to make a tantalizing relationship work. Love, care, attention, devotion, giving, understanding, trust, sacrifice, commitment, selflessness, communication. All these ‘spices’ need to be added in the right quantities, based on the dish(persons) you are dealing with. Some people don’t ask for too much, they don’t like ‘spicy chicken’ they just need your love, commitment and trust, while some others are big on the ‘12- flavored ice cream’, they gotta have it all, your everything! The demands each person places on his/her partner vary from person to person. I have come to discover though that of all these ‘ingredients’, they are die hard ones which you cannot do without, they are like salt is to white rice, without them your relationship is tasteless, worthless n headed straight for the rock, or dust bin.

Communication my beloved pastor Bimm loved to say is the live wire of any relationship. Now, communication goes past just talking and having a conversation with someone, that could be blabbing and just doing some mouth exercise most of the time. Communication is only successful when you have a FEEDBACK i.e. when the purpose for which you have spoken is achieved or when an instruction you have passed along is carried out, then you can say you reached out and have successfully exchanged information and ideas. Communication is a willful thing, it’s something we choose to do or not, if one party is not given to communicating, then the exercise cannot be carried out, it involves the consent of two parties. One has to be willing to let go of the information he/she is withholding while the other has to be ready to LISTEN and PROCESS what the other person is trying to pass across.

It is also important to ask questions and make observations to avoid misconceptions or misconstrue things. It happens that in trying to pass the ideas/thoughts in our minds to our target, certain vital details could be lost or be ambiguous and therefore interpreted in a different way from the original idea, but when questions and observations are made, the initiator of the information download would know if he/she has reached his audience successfully or not.



Communication also isn’t just about words, matter of fact a person might not be talking to me but he is speaking volumes by his silence and of course redefining himself/herself to my perceptions, whether true or false the sad part is they wouldn’t know. Someone once told me I

have a tendency to nag and I had to educate the person on the difference between having a healthy conversation and harping on issues. You see, when someone hits me in a raw place, I like to iron it out with the person, and perhaps it was not intentional. I like the person to know this is what they have done wrong in a drama free and peaceful way and then I watch the response, that person’s feedback would determine my next action. Friends cannot be real with each other if they cannot say, ‘oh, you just hurt me now, why did you do that?’ A friend who keeps sweeping it under the carpet, pretending like nothing has happened, check it is soon to burst from resentment or emotional drain. Each time we go wrong, God finds a way to convict us, provided our conscience’s still intact!



The absence of communication in any relationship at all is the beginning of its death. I once argued that people could be tight friends without talking or communicating for days and months as I have friends like that but then I got to understand that in those times of silence, the relationship was dying or was dead and only resurrected when the life saver of communication was thrown into it. My emphasis though is the refusal of couples to talk about some things and iron issues out. Phrases like, ‘what more do you have to say?’ ‘I’d rather not talk about it’ ‘its best not discussed’ ‘let’s pretend it didn’t happen’ ‘I know what you are gonna say’ ‘I am NOT going to talk about this’. Sound familiar? All very selfish! You might as well be saying, ‘I have it all figured out and your opinion doesn’t really matter’ or ‘I’m closing up to all that has happened and I really don’t care if you take a hike’. Period!



How on earth do we think our relationships can work and grow if we don’t communicate? Our relationship with God is by communication. We relate with Him in communication and I’m sure we know it’s not all about ranting and offering petitions or supplications, we also need to get a feedback from God and that’s how we know His will. We talk to Him and we listen to Him talk to us.



Now, who’s wondering why things are not the way they used to be? How a ‘perfect love’ goes wrong?

The moment you allow communication slip out of your relationship, you are as well snuffing the life out of it. You come back home or get to see each other, you don’t catch up on how both your days went, important information that should be shared, issues that should be addressed and ironed out, actions that need to be taken and you wonder how trust became an issue and why she is no longer committed to you like she used to be? Beep, Beep, put your radar on and do a check!

You just might need to do a lil communication sprinkling to keep it real. Ok?




Much Love.

P.S- I apologise to my beloved peeps and blog followers for the 'break in the flows' the fountain was giving, the ink just wasn't into it, a lotta stuff was holding it but its back now. Cheers!

ONE STEP AT A TIME

I will forever be grateful to God for creating me a girl, but I wish sometimes that I came as a boy, I say to myself I would have done God ‘proud’ and times and situations that warrant this statement come up when I see the male specie so clueless about their women, yet they think they know it all!


Yeah, I know what you’re thinking, ‘of course she would think that way, she has a girls’ perspective!” True that. I am girl and so I think, talk, reason and behave like a girl would. I take up the emotional nature characteristic to women and naturally flow in the role set out for a woman. Some years back, I realized I didn’t know so much about guys and when I checked it, I found out that I didn’t have a lot of male friends, the larger percentage of my friend’s were females, blame it on my single sex secondary education. I knew I wanted to be married someday and I wanted to be able to understand my husband when he is communicating or not, and to have an insight into what ticks and moves him. So, I knew I had to get closer to guys and this increased the number of my male friends. We began to interact and as we did, I started seeing things I didn’t know before, through the questions I asked, I got information and a little bit of insight into how they are wired and what triggers their ‘network’. I didn’t want a warped view, so I took time out to study guys and while I wouldn’t claim to be a guru in the dealings and affairs of the male specie, I know I am better than who I used to be and my knowledge about them has definitely increased (and I am thanking my male friends for giving me the opportunity to learn about them) because as it is, the larger percentage of my friends are now guys, I just find them very interesting.

What am I saying? To know about something, you have to be willing to seek information about that thing and not just assume you know. When you study a thing long enough, when you quiz yourself about something for awhile, at a point, you begin to get a feedback and your mind just picks the information you need out. Our minds were created such that when we tax it, it develops. You would agree with me that what ticks a lady off, will probably have no effect on a man and these two species are very different in their dealings; or how do you explain the willingness of a woman to express her emotions when she loses a loved one while a man seeks to bottle his up so he can ‘be a man?’ or why a man seems to always wear a serious look and you wonder if he ever smiles, or why a boy naturally wants to be the boss of even his sisters when he is many years younger than they are? Or why a man can go berserk when you step on his ego? Our God is just awesome! The best sculptor that ever was and would be. The physical differences of both species are a wonder to ponder on too; a woman is tagged ‘a software’ while the man is called ‘a hardware’. Interesting, don’t you think?

Now, when you see or notice a person and you find out you want to get to know more about this person, you go ahead to first of all initiate (note that word) contact and you proceed from there. I used the word initiate because that part is sensitive. The first impression you give matters. I’m talking about approach and the manner of it, especially when we are dealing with the other specie. How on earth would a guy I know not from adam walk up to me, or send me a mail and qualify me as ‘babygal’, or ‘baby’ or ‘mami’ or ‘shorty/shawty’. Geez, I don’t know about everyone, but I speak for myself and my close friends that a guy who ‘enters’ with this automatically gets a ‘delete’. I don’t know where guys got the impression that ladies want to be addressed as such, but to me and mine, those are ‘pickup lines’ that earns an immediate distaste and disinterest. For real. Or a guy who has just initiated contact and hasn’t even had the opportunity to know just decides he is in love; say a lady meets a guy today, Monday and by the end of the week, he is proclaiming undying love, I tend to see such a guy as ‘unserious’. Likewise, when a lady meets a guy, especially if the interest is romantic and her next question is how much he earns, the guy gets the impression that she is sizing up his pocket, probably to exploit it, or a lady meets a guy and all she can talk about are his obvious flaws, be sure he would keep his distance. Men especially like to be celebrated and appreciated.

For every relationship that will blossom, there are stages involved. It will be a breach to jump from stage 1 to stage 7 so to speak. For me, I break it down into contact, acquaintance (getting to know), leveling, friendship, accountability, intimacy. I naturally get pissed when someone I just met is trying to jump to the accountability stage. I don’t know a thing about you and you expect me to be accountable to you? And don’t say it doesn’t happen, because it does! I don’t know about you, but I choose my friends and that largely depends on how much of the person I get to know. I am not friends with everyone I get acquainted with. I do this because I understand the gravity of what wrong relationships can do to a person’s life. Most guys these days are not willing to take things slow and steady, the instance they meet a girl they think they like, and contact has been initiated, they begin to rush the getting to know and friendship stages. Some don’t even get to the friendship stage before they begin to ask for intimacy. People, the next time a guy/lady says he/she loves you, reflect on how much this person knows about you and how much you have shared about each other and you could decipher if the person’s for real or just disillusioned. I say this because you cannot truly love what you don’t know, you can argue that, but it’s the truth.

Guys love to say ladies are complex and difficult to please, I say it’s because they haven’t bothered to know enough. You cannot just box every woman you meet into the status quo of their sex; each lady is an individual unique in her right. A guy who wants to woo or ‘chase’ a lady cannot just decide that if he does this and that, she’s gotta trip; that it worked on Salewa does not mean it would have any effect on Kanyinsola. You have to find out what particularly gets through to her. Some guys feel they are the most romantic people to ever live and no woman can resist their charm, but have you bothered to find out if you are charming the right way? For some ladies, sweet words make them ‘melt’, while to some it’s just the fact that you care a lot. Take time out to find out the best way to get your message across to her, get to know her, be her friend.

We should learn to let our relationships grow steadily. Communicating a lot helps growth. Ask questions. Seek information. Study the person because sometimes the words and actions might not match up. ‘Breathe slow’, take it one step at a time, there’s no reason to rush.

Much love.

TIME HEALS ALL 'DISEASES'

The saying ‘time and tide waits for no man’ is very true. Time lost is difficult if not impossible to get back. We cannot emphasize enough how imperative it is that time be maximized and utilized fruitfully. The saying, ‘make hay while the sun shines’ also qualifies how important it is to make the best of a season. Recognize your season and utilize it as fast as you can. There is also this saying, ‘the patient dog eats the fattest/biggest bone’ I would like to think of ‘patience’ here according to Strong’s Biblical Concordance which translates it to mean ‘consistency’ i.e. he who is patient(consistent) shall reap the best results and reward. How then do we match up these sayings and strike a balance?


Tick says the clock,

Tick tick,

What you have to do,

Do quick!

This nursery rhyme rhymes in my head right now and I think of how I often battle with procrastination; leaving till sometime later what I can and should do now! But that will be a discussion for another time, this note isn’t about procrastination, it is about the place of patience in our lives.

The average man wants and seeks instant gratification in his endeavors. You can remember how that wait to know your UME result almost ‘killed’ you, if you had your way you would have worked a system to get JAMB to release the results the same day you wrote the exams, or wanting to know how that job test/interview went and you just keep wondering what criteria and process they employed to make the call-back process take so long?

The bible says that for awhile the promises of God may not come and though they tarry, we should wait for them. ‘And we know that when we pray, the Father hears us and if He hears us, He answers our prayers according to how it pleases Him.’ This verse lets us know that each time we pray, God answers sharply, but it may take awhile to see the physical manifestation of our supplications. How patient enough are we to wait for it? Most times, we tend to lose heart when we do not get our requests and conclude that it is either God doesn’t want us to have what we’ve asked for or we are not properly aligned with God, and perhaps, just maybe the reason why you don’t have what you have asked for is because God is actually trying to work in you some patience, sort of a test, for how long can you tarry?

A lot of things I have come to find out produce and reveal their true state and nature when they go through the test of time, relationships and friendships especially. Ladies, you know when we buy that earring and the dealer is trying to convince us it is original gold/silver and won’t fade but just after six months, it begins to manifest in its true colour and ‘glory’, then we are convinced of the real worth of what we actually purchased. Relationships when tried through the time factor will reveal its true essence. Late Pastor Bimbo used to kick against a courtship of less than a year; personally, I think a year is actually not enough to spend with and get to know the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, it’s forever we are talking about here. I would say it should be for as long as you need to be convinced. While it is impossible to know everything about your intended before marriage, it is important to know as much as you can in whatever time that is required. Proximity is a factor here. When both partners have access to each other daily and can engage in meaningful conversations, preferably physical, the ‘getting –to – know’ process is faster, but where distance and communication constitute a barrier, it takes a longer time. There’s this Yoruba saying that likens a person’s character to smoke, it is very difficult to hide smoke. Through and in time, a person’s true character will begin to manifest, no matter how much he/she tries to hide or disguise it. The person will just slip up and we should be sensitive to these slip ups. Time will allow you meet with your partner’s family and relate well with them, observe him/her with the family, how they relate and the values they uphold, do they all believe the same thing or it’s just him/her? Time could be an ‘eye opener’ or ‘veil remover’ to some things you didn’t notice or refused to notice.

Due to their advancement age wise, some ladies tend to rush both the friendship and courtship stage because they do not want to lose the only suitor that has come their way in 5 years. A question they should stop to ask themselves is if they would rather be single than have an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage? A friend shared this story of his friend with me; she (his friend) was 35 years old with no man coming for her. She kept lamenting and worrying and when eventually a man looked her way, she didn’t waste time in getting him to the altar. So, they met 2 years after the wedding with her second pregnancy and when asked how the married life was, she said she was in hell and not marriage. Her husband was on transfer and she was actually praying that he wouldn’t return. I pray we wouldn’t regret the choices we make in haste and in the heat of the moment. While even with time, except the Holy Spirit reveals some things to us, we might not discover some truths about our partner and so it is imperative that we depend upon the Holy Spirit to bring us to the knowledge of all that we need to know about our partner before we commit ourselves.

The Holy Spirit births patience in us, it is one of His fruits. A lifelong commitment is not something that should be rushed into. While you may be singing, ‘let’s grow old together’ now, I pray the song wouldn’t turn to ‘I can see clearly now, the rain is gone’. Please be that patient ‘dog’ that gets the fattest bone. Let time try your relationship.

Much love.

REFINER'S FIRE.

I remember this saying my high school principal loved, ‘the heights that great men achieved was not by sudden flight but they while their mates were sleeping stayed awake, toiling’. We do know that gold in its very crude state has little or no value. We really cannot utilize or recognize its full potentials until it has been refined. Gold in its pure state is beautiful, expensive n valued, well sought after. Loads of women n men part with thousands n millions just to purchase gold. Now, even though in the crude state, the very beginning, it was gold, if it had stayed that way, its worth n essence would never have been realized. It had every capacity to function like gold because the metallic properties were the same, but because of the state of its quality, it didn’t look like ‘it’. It took work, fire, stress n refining to make the REAL n TRUE ‘it’ emerge.

A lot of people live in shadows of themselves, trying to find their real n true self, searching deep into their core to get self knowledge. Maybe some of us even know what we are about but we just discover that we operate below the capacity that we know we posses. Something within us tells us we should n can be better than we are right now. Well, as we know, if gold had just folded its arms n ‘refused’ to go thru the fire, it would have stayed just as it is; crude n underutilized. Talk about struggles; been there, done that. Confusion; I never seem to be able to make up my mind. Being me; I’m not even sure I understand what that means at times. Someone once said that the richest place on earth would be the graveyard because of the vast deposit of potentials n talents untapped n undiscovered buried there. In fear, a lot of us are afraid to reach out of our comfort zone. We are scared we would be judged, looked down on or scorned n so we prefer to stay where we are n are used to than take a leap of faith that may land us in 'hot soup'. If the eagle does not spread its wings, flight becomes impossible. If an aircraft doesn’t take off, it cannot fly. If we do not step out of our comfort area, progress becomes difficult.

Principles are no respecter of people, if you can play by the rules, you get the results. Practice brings to perfection, what you work at gets better. Confronting issues is a process to finding solutions. What you sow, you reap. What am I saying? If we don’t get off our butts n begin to WORK HARD at our goals, dreams, purposes, relationships, career, finances, they ain’t gonna get better. In fact, they may get worse, because it is true that what you do not use, deteriorates. ‘Have you seen a man diligent in his ways? He shall stand before kings n queens n not ordinary men.’ ‘The diligent man makes use of everything he finds.’ When we are committed to working at n on things, we would find that we get better even though initially it might require a lot of time, stress n sacrifices. A relationship that is constantly worked on grows n becomes solid. Work usually produces harvest n rewards, results.

Knowing where we are going also determines the level of effort we put in. You wanna graduate with honors, you know it aint a piece of cake. It’s an easy thing to make wishes n plans n confess positive things that we want but are we ready to work for them? Faith with no works is meaningless; it takes work to prove your faith.

Now, the best way to know how a gadget works is to go through its manual put together by the maker, that way we can assemble the different parts with little or no stress n get the thing started. For some of us, the work we need to do is allow the manufacturer take us through His manual. ‘He said, before I formed you, I KNEW you’. This means, there is a you God knew n related with before you were conceived in your mother’s womb. Aren’t you curious to find out who that you is? The way I see it is there is already a manual that describes everything about how we are supposed to live on earth n who we are to be, different for each individual but because we have not bothered to find out what this manual says, we struggle n stumble on our way to self discovery. When we get this manual n begin to act it out, we open up ourselves to the refiner to take us through His fire, to bring us out in our purest state, to the right picture n person we were created to be. When we are functioning optimally, there’s this inner peace n satisfaction that we experience. We ‘occupy’.

When I am old n without my teeth (hopefully not), I want that deep seated satisfaction in me that I worked to be the BEST me n I would be going to the grave ‘empty’. I’m on the run, wanna join me?

Much love.

BB

If the word BlackBerry what came to your mind, I wouldn’t be surprised. What is up with the rave on that anyways? Where I am thinking of getting another XpressMusic, most peeps already have their BB or are ‘working’ towards getting theirs. This isn’t about BlackBerry though (not even sure I would know what to write about it). No, this ain’t about Blackberry; it’s about BONDING and BOUNDARIES.


I have often heard people say that it is impossible for a guy and a girl to be very close platonic friends and they wouldn’t have intimate feelings for each other, with time the platonicity (permit me to use that word) will give way to intimacy they say. While this may have its element of truth, I do not totally agree and this is where BB comes in.

Someone once said to me that you tend to develop a likeness for those you pray with and for. This is very true. Have you ever had a male/female prayer buddy you pray with and suddenly you just find yourself developing strong emotions for the person? Or there’s this particular friend you like to pray for and you find yourself drawn to the person? I don’t know about you, but I have experienced both, oh yea, I’m a living witness. Maybe yours has to do with the person you confide in. That friend you love to tell your inner heart to and who understands you like no one does, you know you are just friends yet you find your heart speaking a different language.

In our christain walk, if we live without boundaries and standards, the enemy will easily overcome us. It is like a car with no brake, it might take awhile, but that car will surely crash. Some of us live our lives with no restrictions. We do not even guard our hearts, talk less with diligence. We allow anything and anyone to come into our lives, mess us up and leave. It is difficult to erect boundaries if we do not have a standard or template for our lives. I am talking about principles here. What credos are your values built on? It is important to check why you uphold some values because that would help you stand your ground and hold on to them when they other wisely want to shift. Just like we have restrictions and boundaries in our spiritual walk, we should also have them in our relationships. When you meet someone and get to know the person to an extent, you should ask yourself, ‘how far am I willing to go with this person?’ Defining a relationship is the first step to erecting boundaries.

Bonding, to me is that connection you have and have built over time with someone, that could either be borne out of understanding, or not. It could be on different realms and levels; physical, spiritual, intellectual, emotional, sexual, name it. Late pastor Bimbo used to say, ‘no relationship you have or allow leaves you the same way it met you, it either makes or breaks you’. WORD! You cannot be too careful of the influence you allow and the extent of that influence in your life. Bonding could also be a soul tie between two people depending on which type it is. What you don’t know when you have multiple sex partners that you are not married to is that you are giving a piece of yourself to each partner and forming a soul tie with each one. The bible says a man shall leave his parents and CLEAVE to his wife and they shall become one, what the Lord has joined together, no man can put asunder!!! When you have given pieces of yourself out, (except the Lord redeems you) what do you have to offer your spouse when you marry?

We should watch out for how we bond in our relationships. Late pastor Bimbo also used to say that a lady should not have a man as her prayer partner except they are in a relationship. I totally agree. Define your relationships. There is an acceptable way for a couple to behave that is not for platonic friends. If you are not romantically involved with a man, what are you doing on his laps? What are you doing in his room late in the midnight all by yourself? What are you doing getting all snuggly and cuddly? Why would you sleep in each other’s arms and say you are just friends? With benefits? It might seem harmless at first but do not forget that men majorly are physical beings and get moved by what they see and feel. What you will not eat; please do not bring it to your nose to smell!

Some people argue that even when one makes these boundaries, in the heat of the moment, they get broken. This is why I say our boundaries should be erected out of understanding. What might be my boundary line may not necessarily be yours, but we are both trying to guard against the same thing. While some may say boundaries do not work, I stand bold to say boundaries have helped and ‘delivered’ me on many occasions from unnecessary bonding. Do not get me wrong, I am not saying we shouldn’t share bonds with our friends, but we should be careful who we bond with, how we bond and what kind of bond we share. I know of a lady who got so emotionally dependent upon a male friend of hers and this started to cause hitches in her marriage. Never rush any relationship or friendship. Get to know all you possibly can about a person before releasing yourself to the extent that you want to. Many people find it hard to break off unworthy relationships because they feel they’ve given too much of themselves or they don’t want to hurt the different parties involved. Please, be careful how you bond and who you bond with. Some folks cannot pull out of abusive relationships because of the bond(s) they have formed with their abuser. This is why you would hear a lady when her boyfriend batters her say, ‘he is not always like that, he’s not perfect and he always apologizes, besides, I love him too much to leave him’. That lady is in serious shackles. Living in the bondage of wrongly placed emotions.

I would also say that when we make new acquaintances, we should take our time to get to know the person, letting out ourselves bit by bit to guard against forming a bond you might find impossible to break. A lady once met an ex-convict, now converted and who was vibrant in the Lord, or so it seemed. Gradually, they began to spend time together, praying and studying the word. The lady now felt comfortable with the guy and allowed him to pay her visits. There seemed to be an imminent attraction. One day, the guy showed up, raped the lady and made away with her valuables. This is no super story or fable, real life it happened. I pray that the Holy Spirit will guide us in our relationships, lead us to the right people and help us to discern wrong relationships. I enjoin us to try and ensure that in our relationships and dealings, we watch the double B.

Much love.

Who's Da Boss?

Laughing out loud! I laugh as I remember this story Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya loved to tell about how a guy was in his ‘heat’ and just couldn’t seem to control himself and wanted to sleep with his girlfriend. As they were about to get down to the business, the lady told the guy she had something important to tell him and the guy who was already ‘charged’ and ready told her to spit out whatever it was she had to say as she was ruining the mood. She said, ‘sweetheart, before we go on, I just need you to know that I’m HIV positive and I love you very much’. Your guess is as good as mine. The guy’s ‘battery’ went flat. (Laughing)


Many times situations, feelings and emotions come our way and they tend to overwhelm us such that we feel helpless and unable to control or discipline ourselves. You come across that beautiful necklace/cool phone you know you shouldn’t buy because it will set back your budget a great deal but you go ahead to buy it anyway as you can’t seem to help yourself. You know you shouldn’t eat those chocolates and ice cream but they just seem to have your name on it, one cup wouldn’t hurt, or would it?

For God hath not given us the Spirit of fear, but of power, love and self control (sound mind). 2 Tim 1:7. Different versions interchange the words self control and sound mind, so we could invariably say to have self control is to have a sound mind. So, when you seem not to be able to control yourself, your mind isn’t in a sane state. We control and discipline ourselves because we want to conform to a certain standard we seek to pattern our lives after. We could say to have self control (discipline) means to make one’s self steady and consistent to a pattern and not deviate from that standard. The flesh naturally wants to do whatever it pleases, but it is the Spirit of God that makes us realize that everything is lawful, but not everything is expedient (profitable). 1 Cor 6: 12 – 13 tells us that we can do anything we want to, but not everything is good for us and that we are not supposed to do indecent things with our bodies but to use them for God who owns and dwells in our bodies.

There comes that stage in every courtship when our hormones seem to be raging out of control and we just can’t seem to hold out any longer, and so to help ourselves, we go first base, second base, but not actually ‘all the way’, after all, it’s pre-marital sex God frowns at and not kissing, necking, petting and its likes. Most peeps like to say there’s no scripture in the bible where God condemns kissing etc. This is true but I know a scripture that says we should flee every APPEARANCE of evil, not evil itself, wouldn’t you agree with me that kissing, necking and petting are appearances of sex, isn’t that what is called foreplay? Some guys tell me they can control themselves when they are into the preambles and would not necessarily go all the way, and then I ask them, the last time you were kissing her, what were your hands doing? We really need to understand that fornication and sexual immorality is not only about the act alone, it involves the mind. It is not until you ‘do the do’ with a lady that you fornicate, merely undressing a woman with your eyes is sexual immorality!

In Proverbs 5, instructions were given to King Solomon that he might have sound judgement! The first was to flee immoral women. This reminds me of what Pastor Kunle Soriyan once said that when you are involved with sexual sin, you withdraw from your bank of influence, I mean don’t we all remember Samson, the mighty man of valor, what brought him down? His weakness, his untamed sexuality.

For real, the ‘gish gish’, ‘lets get down’ feeling is there, perhaps almost everytime you see him/her, in fact my pastor likes to say that as a man, if you don’t feel like grabbing or sleeping with your intended, you need to rethink your choice; but I would like you to get it out of you that you cannot control yourself, because you can! The flesh (our mind) constantly wars with our Spirit man (The Word) and at each time, our choice decides if we conquer sin or not. It’s always about a choice, but making the choice is easy when the Holy Spirit is in control, because He will prompt you and help you to stand if you yield to Him.

1 Cor 6 tells us that sexual sin is a sin against our body in a way no other sin is. The significance of this is that our body belongs to God, He paid a great price to redeem us and we owe it to Him to honor our bodies, His temple, where His Spirit dwells. Sometimes, we really need to sit down and ask ourselves why we uphold and believe in the values that we have, because an understanding will help to erect the right and safe boundaries. If you understand that sexual sin is a destiny destroyer, killer (slow poison) and kingdom inheritance thief, you might want to rethink kissing and fondling each other. I like to say what we won’t eat; we shouldn’t bring it close to our noses. If you know you don’t want to sleep with her yet, why on earth are you fondling her breasts? Another man’s wife (because she’s not yours yet)? Seed time and harvest. Trust becomes an issue when you eventually marry because you believe if she could give it to you while you were still dating; she probably could to anyone else as she doesn’t seem to think it’s a big deal.

Engagement is not a pass for sex, the only pass God gives is marriage. Ladies, I believe it is more unto us to help our men. Men are naturally physical beings and tend to ‘burn with passion’, sex they say is a very good way to relieve pressure. We shouldn’t tempt them unnecessarily and put them in helpless positions. I believe that if a man wants to sleep with his girlfriend and she refuses, except he rapes her, there’s nothing he can do. In the way we dress, conduct and compose ourselves, we need to try not to arouse and set our men on ‘fire’ unnecessarily.

Sex alone is not the only spiritual tie that binds the two souls involved. I remember this power night in school, where the invited minister told us about a man that was being oppressed n ruled by a spirit, such that the man was misbehaving and sleeping with anybody and thing. People kept their female relations away from him. Through a prayer session, God revealed that the origin/entrance of the spirit into the man’s life happened through kissing a girl. Unknown to the man, through that contact, she passed that spirit to him. People, be guided. If Christ has set you free, please don’t by yourself put the chains on again.

The bible says that those who find it hard to control themselves should marry, and so, for those of us unmarried, we are expected to control and keep ourselves from sexual sin. If we couldn’t do it, He wouldn’t have said we could. It may be difficult, but His grace helps. Pray. Erect safe boundaries and stick with them. Watch what you take into you through your eyes and ears. His Spirit gives us liberty to do what we want, but we should know that not everything is good for us and we have to REFUSE to let anything have power over us. 1 Cor 6:12. The next time your body is telling you, ‘go and do’, you tell it who THE BOSS is!

Much love.

ON A STRONG THING LEVEL

She dey push my buttons, dial my number……..she dey do me strong thing, no be small thing. Yeah, that’s Banky W singing STRONG THING, or something that sounds like that. Quite a number of us have had someone do us a ‘strong thing’ or we have done unto some people ‘strong things’ (laughing out loud) either ways, and you might wanna agree with Banky W when he says, ‘no be small thing ’. Shall we then call a ‘strong thing’ love? Perhaps I should try to describe what a strong thing is like.

You know when you think about a person and you start to get goose pimples, or you see the person and your heart starts to run a marathon, beating so fast and when you hear his/her voice, you just ‘melt’. Your thought usually revolves around that person and he/she can do no wrong. He’s/she’s probably the most wonderful person on earth. You dream about this person, probably saying I do’s, (laughing), and you long to hold this certain someone in your arms and just cuddle, or more. Did I forget to mention that ‘butterflies’ become tenants in your stomach when this person is around you and he/she just gives you ‘the fever’, you know that ‘gish gish’ feeling. You are seriously tripped and on a rollercoaster, life is certainly beautiful.

This ‘strong thing’ is a feeling of attraction. Don’t even begin to mistake it for love. I have heard people say diverse things about two people getting together. Some say to hell with the feelings, what have they got to do with love? Some say the feelings are not that important, what matters is who the person really is; the choice of a partner should not be based on an attraction and a whole lot of stuff.

When a guy sets his sight upon a lady and sets out to woo her, I sometimes wonder why he chose her out of the rest of the pack. I mean he must have had options, but what made him decide it had to be her? Her sense of style? Her personality? Her physique? Her brains? Her aura? Guys you would agree with me that the first thing that attracts you to a woman is usually her outlook, that’s what piques your interest and makes you want to take a closer look. While you are taking a closer look, you might find some qualities you have been searching for in a woman and your heart begins to get involved. May I just say at this point that ‘love at first sight’ don’t mean nothing to me, it doesn’t exist, and that is because you cannot love what you do not know, contrary to what people think, love is a choice, and so I would say it’s more of ‘attraction at first sight’.

A lot of us mistake this feeling of attraction for love and hereby get ourselves all emotionally tangled up. That a man opens the door for you, or takes you out, or buys you roses, sends you romantic texts and gifts does not mean he loves you, when a man has gotten to know your weaknesses and faults and can still say no matter who you are or what you have done he still values you the same, sees you as no lesser than you are and accepts you for who you are unconditionally, then you can say he loves you. Now don’t get me wrong, all the above listed attributes are evidences of his affection and when true love is present, it naturally births giving (For God so loved the world, He GAVE His only son…). So, one of the ways you can know when a man/woman loves you is how much of himself/herself the person gives to you, not necessarily the material things.

Usually, couples are on the ‘strong thing’ level at the initial stage of their relationship, where they haven’t
really gotten to know each other’s character. When individual character begins to find its way out through fronts and facades, then the ‘strong thing’ begins to reduce to nothing. At this point, sometimes, you cannot even phantom what you saw in the person that made you say yes initially.

I would personally say that I wouldn’t dream of going into a relationship with a man I feel nothing for, or who
does not do me a ‘strong thing’. That means that for me to say yes to a man, apart from finding some certain
qualities in him, I must be attracted to him, that’s what sets him apart from the pack. The attraction doesn’t only have to be about his outlook, might be his mind, might be his person, but an attraction is what piques my interest.
While it’s ok to start on a ‘strong thing’ level, it is essential that we outgrow this level as soon as we can, and
be able to control our emotions and feelings. We shouldn’t allow ourselves to be consumed and controlled by our feelings and emotions, lest we lose our reasoning. When people say love is blind, I say mine would see. Your feelings alone should never be the reason why you would say yes to a man or ask a lady out. This is because feelings are fleeting; they are subject to the ‘weather’. So, if your relationship is based on just feelings, then preserving it when the distress and disagreements come becomes herculean as your feeling at that time will naturally take up the temperature of distress. But when you back up the feelings with certain unique qualities this person has, shared values, dreams, visions, goals and destinations, then when the differences start showing up, you can go back to your common solid ground and fight it with that.

We also have to be careful how we handle the ‘strong thing’ level so we don’t make mistakes we may regret. Based on the rollercoaster emotions and feelings we might be experiencing, some of us might be carried away and lose self control. You begin to bond unnecessarily, and engage in pre-marital sex. While you are on that level, erect boundaries that would protect you and stick with those boundaries. People say boundaries could be hard to follow, I have worked with boundaries and they have worked for me. Seek God’s help and strength to stay true to your beliefs and values. Avoid tempting scenarios, when you are not going to eat meat, you shouldn’t bother to bring it close to your nose. Flee every APPEARANCE of evil, not evil itself.

I actually believe that even till and in marriage, couples should still do each other ‘strong things’ but at this
stage, they would have gone through a lot together, weathered storms and if and when you and your partner have gone through your differences, disagreements, fights, arguments and distress and you still come out doing each other ‘strong things’, then I would say you have reached your place of stability, ‘a permanent thing’.

Much love.

HEARTBREAK HOTEL?

The heart of a man is the essence of his soul, his place of feelings and emotions. It is where we love, hurt, grudge, plot and conceive things; no wonder God says to us, ‘guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life’. This means that everything that pertains to life takes root in your heart and it will direct the course of your life.


Now if the heart is essential for your living and could determine the outcome and kind of life you live, shouldn’t you be paying a lot of attention to what you allow in, out and to take root in your heart? The bible also says that, ‘the heart of man is desperately wicked’. This tells me that the natural man, no matter how much he tries will lean towards conceiving evil in his heart, it is only natural and he is taking up the normal characteristic of the flesh. You may think and say to yourself, does it mean once I am born again, my heart ceases to be wicked? ‘If any man be (is consistent) in Christ, he is a new creature, old things have passed away and behold, all things become new’. With your re-birth in Christ comes a new heart and as you grow in Him, the Holy Spirit ministers to and guides your heart, provided you let Him. The natural man will give in to his fleshy desires (Gal 5: 19 – 21) and such person will not be a partaker of the blessings of God’s kingdom but the spirit man is guided by the Spirit and so can overcome his flesh. Gal 5: 25 tells us that God’s spirit gives us life and so we should allow ourselves to be led by His spirit. Note that your will and choice is involved. You have to decide to allow His Spirit rule you; you have to let your will be overridden by His spirit. In as much as the Holy Spirit is in control and guides your heart, it is your responsibility to guard your heart and watch what you allow in and out of it. If you allow ‘filth’, the Holy Spirit cannot stand it hence you gradually will silence Him in you.

Where am I going? I have tried to establish the importance of having our heart governed by the right authority, for it to be in the right condition and also to emphasize that we decide the state and affairs of our heart. Stop to think. For God to have said ‘GUARD your heart’, that means you are protecting it against something. It means there would be issues, thoughts, situations and circumstances that would want to bring or stir up the wrong emotions and feelings in us, but it is within our power to control and decide how we let these issues ‘enter’ our hearts. Haven said this; you might understand me when I say to people that no man can break my heart, because I wouldn’t even give him the opportunity to. Does this sound unreal and mouthy to you? Well, it is what I have come to see and believe. Now, a man could hurt me, but he cannot break my heart, there is a difference.

Many a times when a relationship hits the rock, it splits and one or both hearts are said to be ‘shattered’ into bits. Oh yea? If them hearts are shattered, then geez these people shouldn’t be alive, that’s on a lighter note. Based on who and what ends the relationship, especially if one person cheated, the other person seems to think the world has come to an end and perhaps cannot find it in his/her heart to love again. I tell you if you allow that, you are exactly where the devil wants you. When your heart is in ‘pieces’, how can issues of life spring forth? I have heard stories of how a girl commits suicide because her fiancé called the relationship quits and how a guy became a wreck because his girl married someone else, and then they say these people destroyed their lives, you might even know some of them. How can someone have such power over another person’s life? Shall we call that love?

The first thing you need to ask yourself is who owns and governs your heart? That guy/babe you love so much, who gave him/her to you? I love God because He first loved me. I make bold to say that the reason why a guy/girl can break your heart is because you probably have not made God your first love and no 1 ‘sweetheart’. Perhaps that guy/chic has taken His place in your life. I say this because if indeed God holds the first and foremost position in your heart and life, in spite what anyone does and irrespective of what happens, you would know that all things work together for your good. Now I know some of you may be thinking, she probably hasn’t experienced it and that’s why she thinks like this. I have been hurt (maybe not in the context of a guy jilting me, but I know what a hurting heart feels like), time and again, I felt the pain but I didn’t let it shatter me, I didn’t let it destroy me, I didn’t allow it put in me the inability to trust again, I didn’t let it put in me the inability to give of myself again, I didn’t let it lead me to make some harsh decisions, I didn’t let it make me decide to ‘use and dump’ people, I didn’t let it keep me from loving totally again’. People will hurt and disappoint us, but the good news is we don’t have to handle these hurts and disappointments alone. We need to get to that point where we can turn our disappointments no matter what they are over to God and begin to see them as His appointments.

Who says that guy/ girl is the best person for you? You might think you wouldn’t find another person as wonderful as he/she is but where God is in control of your life, always know that ALL things, (no matter how disappointing and ‘heartbreaking’ they are) work together for your GOOD! Stop limiting yourself in your thoughts. I like to think this way, if a guy should tell me he doesn’t think he can continue with our relationship and he wants out, of course, I would want reasons and would try to see how to work it out, but, if and when his mind is made up, I really cannot force him and while based on how I feel about him and how all the time and effort I have invested in the relationship seems to be coming to naught, I would say to myself, ‘well, it was worthwhile knowing him, but I guess God has someone better planned for me. Perhaps he’s not right for my purpose. If with all my efforts, he wants out, perhaps he is not right for me and its better he leaves so the right person can come my way. If he has decided on another girl, I say it’s his loss because I know my worth and what I ‘carry’ and I know I am an ideal woman. I am glad because through the relationship, I influenced him positively and so wherever he goes he would always remember me for those things’. As a man will think in his heart, so he will become. Your thoughts have a healing effect on your emotions. Think right, the way God will want you to. I doubt He would want you to think the hope of a partner is doomed because that would mean you don’t trust Him. That in essence could be God’s way of taking you two apart; because He is merciful enough not to allow you make a mistake. If he/she is God’s will for you, it will come to pass.


So, people, the next time you want to throw a pity party and wallow in your ‘heartbreak’, I suggest you stop to think of what exactly you are saying to God. I ain’t saying don’t pour out your hurts, I am saying turn them over to Him and let Him work and walk you through ‘em.


Much love.

GO ALL DA WAY.

'If you say so', I said to him. He was trying frantically to make me believe him and what he explained, but just to humour him, I said those words. I had made up my mind he was lying and even if he was telling the truth this time, I couldn't be bothered.

Do you feel this way about people sometimes? Your heart desperately wants to believe them, but your head tells you different? You try so hard to find the truth in his/her explanations and reasons, but that sixth sense tells you it ain't gonna be different this time, why should it be?

For me to build a lasting and worthwhile relationship with anyone at all, trust and credibility cannot be compromised, and it goes way deeper than the face value. Recently, someone who I had rated high on the integrity and credibility scale came crashing and it took only one instance for that transit. What happened? Financial purity; an ability to handle finances with integrity, trustworthiness; letting your 'yes' be 'yes', discipline; knowing your focus and working against all odds to attain it, attitude; taking people for granted. Those were majorly the issues that came up.
Those who say that first impression matters a lot and lingers for a great while speak the truth, but I tell you if someone makes a good first impression with me and somehow along the way proves to be without integrity and trustworthiness, I lose interest in the person like 'snap'. Likewise, If I have a friend who cannot trust me and take my word for what it means, we wouldn't go far. Now, this is just me, I don't know how it works for everyone, but I want to believe no one likes being told, 'you are a liar', or'why are such a cheat?' as well as I am guessing you most likely would stay away from people who lie to you and take advantage of you, or who cheat on you.

Guys, just how would feel when you find out your girl's been 'up and about', doing stuff you didn't know off? By stuff I mean sharing her heart, emotions, love and body with someone else? I'm guessing it'ld be like a knife piercing your heart and you cannot seem to breathe (except you do not truly love her). You would suffer an ego blow as I have come to find out especially in my part of the world that no sane man likes to share his woman.

I have tried to create an awareness of the importance of trust in relationships. Just like air is to life, so is trust to a longlasting n worthwhile relationship. Trust is what lets you know you can go to sleep (with both eyes closed) and trust that your possessions and even you won't be sold. Trust is that situation/emotion such that you can lay down your will and vouch for something/someone. Trust is what makes you give your heart wholly and fully in a relationship, or not. Quite some of my male friends tell me they gotta be 'insured' as they cannot afford a woman toiling with their heart and emotions and so, they keep a part of themselves away, not fully involving their hearts in the hope that if and when she messes up, they don't get so hurt n broken.It simply means trust isn't present such that the slightest action or involvment of their gal can be miscontrued. Know that when you do not give yourself fully and wholly to something, you cannot get the best out of it. Half measures are no measures. I hear my mum's voice right now saying what she loves to say, 'whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well'. The bible tells us to use our God given gifts and talents very well that they might bring glory to the giver. 'Whatever you do, do it with all your heart.....'

Trust is not a guarantee that you will not get hurt or disappointed, it is a step of faith that you will not be. The fact that we can fail should not hinder us from launching out. Life in essence is lived by faith. Each night you lay your head to rest, you believe you will wake the next day and so you make plans. A relationship without trust would be shaky and come to an eventual fall. Such a relationship favours hearsays and grapevine, suspicion is not far and a lot of disrespect and hurt is always out to play. Check it, why do u think a man/lady is offended and gets on the defensive when he/she is quizzed about his/her movements by the partner...the next question usually is, 'don't you trust me?'


Trust is not automatic, it has to be earned. It is a choice. You put your trust in something you hope for or believe in. You decide you can stick out your neck for a person you trust and can vouch for. You cannot trust someone you do not know and sometimes, even when you think you do know them, you get disappointed and that is why it is important that we becareful in how we trust and who we trust in. I trust God and I know He would never fail me because failure I know ain't His nature. I trust my parents to always tell me the truth whether I want to hear it or not. I trust my siblings to always look out for me. I trust my childhood friends to always bring me back to my senses. I have decided to trust that my husband would give his best to groom me to my best. I trust these people because I know them and they have earned my trust. Marriage involves trusting that the person you are commiting your life to will cherish it just like you do. You want to build your relationship on the solid rock, trust ain't negotiable. Build your integrity level and watch the respect it brings to you.


Much love.

Bonnie n Clyde?

I see a girl with a guy sometimes and I wonder how on earth and in heaven both of them got together. You look into some relationships and tend to say, ‘that girl is too good for him, or she doesn’t deserve that kind of guy’. I ain’t a judge over anybody but the mind cannot just help trying to comprehend some things. Every human is a different person, unique in his/her right, and while our differences bring about the variety that spices up our world, (I mean if everyone were the same this world would be a boring and stereotyped place), there is that place of compatibility in our relationships and associations. Can two walk together except they agree?


I like to study people a lot, sometimes I feel I should have majored in Human Psychology as it comes to me naturally, even in my sub-conscious, and so I know that a person’s personality is influenced by his upbringing, environment and mindset. Our personality is the ‘face’ we present to people, which could be true or false. It’s the way people perceive us, while our character is the true person that we are which is influenced by the values and credos we have imbibed. Three things generally influence or define a person; his temperament, his personality and his character.

I would like you to ask yourself this, ‘what attracts me to a person?’ If you are a lady, ‘what attracts me to a man?’ and vice versa. Do you know what you desire in your man/woman? Do you have it written down? A lot of people don’t even really know what they desire and should look out for in their partners, and so they tend to take any ‘good’ thing that comes their way, though it might not be a God thing! There’s that acceptable will of God for our lives and His perfect will. I don’t know about you, but I want His perfect will for me. If you do not know who you are, then you cannot know who/what kind of person would suit you. If you don’t know where you are going and have not discovered your purpose, you wouldn’t know the right person to take with you to help you get ‘there’ and fulfill your purpose. Some guys ask me out and I say to myself, what exactly was this guy thinking about? We got nothing in common! Yes, opposites attract, like poles repel, this might be true, let’s apply that fact in physics but when it comes to our relationships, there are some areas where like poles just have to attract! There are those core aspects of a person’s life where you need someone with a like mind, else you would be asking for trouble. I mean I cannot imagine myself in a relationship with anyone who doesn’t share my faith, what would be the basis and foundation of the relationship? Sharing it isn’t even all; we have to agree spiritually, with similar or higher beliefs, attitude and commitment to God. If I believe in seeding and tithing and my partner doesn’t; the day I am led to sow all my income would my partner understand and support my decision?

Before you say yes to that man, and before you decide this is the woman you want to be with, you need to ask yourselves a whole lot of questions to find out if you really suit each other and you are not just being delusional. Are you compatible? Do your lives agree or conflict? Are you on the same page spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, morally, socially, academically, and physically? I’m not saying everything has to necessarily be the same, but do you complement each other? Can he live up to your taste and social class or is he trying not to be intimidated? Are your moral values similar? What does he/she consider to be morally right or wrong? Does he challenge your mind? Can she hold her own in a conversation or she’s just comfortable in letting her opinions slide and yours override and you think she’s submissive?

Marriage is a partnership that involves both parties helping each other to achieve purpose and fulfill destiny and to bring forth children unto the Lord. A lot of homes are in turmoil because the couples did not take out time to find out if they were well suited for each other, and so after the whole wedding paparazzi wears off, reality begins to set in and then the rain suddenly stops falling and the vision is sharp. Why don’t you take out time to set the vision now and see clearly. What are those signs you have been ignoring? The institution of marriage cannot be joked with as it will direct the course of your life. Is the person you have decided to entrust your life to worth it? Can you trust him/her to stay true to you and nurture you? Are you sure he/she won’t sabotage your future in his/her interest? Do you agree on issues? How do you resolve conflicts? Is he/she selfish and self- centered?

Stop compromising in the quality of your relationships. Not everybody should have an access to you because of proximity. It is on you to choose who you associate with, because every relationship you allow would either make or mar you. You have to understand that whether you like it or not, the company you keep would influence you, so choose the kind of influence you want in your life. Our life is directed by our choices n decisions. The company of fools shall be destroyed; those who walk with the wise shall be wise; evil communication will always corrupt good manners. I’m not saying we should begin to segregate and judge people, there’s a certain level of relationship we can maintain without letting ourselves be influenced, e.g. our colleagues, business partners, classmates, but where close associations are involved, and you have given these people access to your life, then you need to be sure they would help you get to your destination and not tear you down. Remember, iron sharpeneth iron, copper can’t do that work. If you are gold, be sure you settle for nothing less than gold, even if it takes refining, be sure it is gold!


Much love.

WHILE YOU WAIT.

Yes, for real, there comes that time in our lives when all we want is just to have someone special to call our own. Someone to share your life with. Someone who gets you like no one does, someone who’s on the same page with you, someone who excites you, cares for you and nutures you. Valentine’s day upon valentine’s day roll by each year and when you see different couples with different styles of celebrating love, you say to yourself; where in Heavens is this ‘special someone?’ Where’s ‘prince charming’, or the ‘queen of my heart’? Why is he/she taking so long to show up? Im not getting younger. In a bid to be encouraged you say to yourself, I’ll be patient, it pays to be patient. I’ll wait for the right person, for that special someone, but you know deep within you that that’s easier said than done, because everytime you think about it, it weighs you down. Ok, check now, maybe this is the reason he/she hasn’t shown up, that attitude is just not right!


You are in a waiting period, or is it a searching period? You have a destination. You have a dream. Instead of despair, you should enjoy where you are on the way to where you are going! Some weeks ago in church while pastor was teaching about relationships, he celebrated the singles and made them realize that that stage is a blessed stage. That is the time you have to set your template and create the kind of life you want to live.

What are you doing while you wait for that special someone? Are you ready? The singles life is a somewhat free life. There is no better time to work on yourself. That is the time to build your values and principles. That is the time to prune your excesses and bad habits. That is the time to seek God, not just because you need a partner, but because you need Him in your life. That is the time to actively work for God, forget about finding that special one and concentrate on your walk with God. He already said that He would keep in perfect peace he whose heart is stayed on Him. Where’s your heart? When your heart is given to God, He'll lead it to where your treasure lies. It’s not the time to go after series of trial and error dating which most times turns out less fun than you thought it would be and could lead to you missing it. God knows the desires of our hearts, He put them there and He is a respecter of our ability to choose and decide. He knows what is best for us and that is why we should just hand it over to Him and focus on getting our selves ready. You want the right person, have you made yourself right? We may think we have read all the books, studied all that there is to know, maybe we even counsel some of our friends in relationships, but, it may shock you to know that by God’s standards you are not even near set to go. It may just be that tiny winny little thing He’s been convicting you of that’s holding ‘things’ from happening. For some, there are just somethings that are not in place that if the special one were to show up, it could spell trouble. His thoughts towards us are of good, not evil to bring us to our expected ends.

Now, instead of wallowing and sighing in your despair, rise up and begin to live a single, but sassy life. Grow in your spiritual walk, improve on you, work on your weaknesses, build up your strengths, discover who you really are if you don’t know, get your purpose clear(when you know where you are going, you can’t just afford to take anything that comes your way), fan your gifts to flame, develop your potentials, make yourself an asset and at the appointed time, the line will fall for you in a pleasant place.


I remember this soundtrack from the movie FIREPROOF……

While I’m waiting, I will serve You,
While I’m waiting, I will worship,
While I’m waiting, I will not faint,
I’ll be running the race even while I wait.

I don’t know about you, but I have decided I’m gonna be single, sassy and satisfied? Haha, then I wouldn’t be true, no, I won’t be satisfied with being single but I sure will ENJOY it, while it lasts.

Much love.