tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55753098668886423612024-03-13T02:11:32.737-07:00Fountain Flows...the ink of a ready writer.Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-71389435034975268692014-11-25T05:32:00.000-08:002014-11-25T05:32:17.905-08:00P.S: You ain’t God<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
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for three years when he asked her to marry him. Oh, how happy Solape was,
especially when she stared at the beautiful rock that donned the middle finger
of her left hand. Plans were falling into place and they both were excited
about their future together. Up until Bode told Solape about his own personal
plans for her; she would have to resign from her firm so she could concentrate
on being an effective wife to him and mother to their children. Bode never
really liked Solape wearing make-up or hair extensions and if they were getting
married, she had to throw out her make-up box and wear her hair natural. He
also told her about his preference for skirts and dresses, he never really
thought trousers were an appropriate clothing choice for women. Apparently,
Solape was overweight too, thus she needed to hit the gym every day and quit
all the sweets and chocolates she loved to munch on. What’s more, she had to do
this before they got married or he would have to break their engagement. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Then Solape began to remember
all the subtle snide remarks he had made about her hair and make-up, how when
she asked him how she looked, he would just give a passing compliment. How when
she complained about the demands of her job, he would smile and tell her she
only had to endure for a little while. I
guess Bode thought since he had given Solape a ring, he had earned a god-given
right to also run her life. See, some people be thinking that being in a
relationship or marriage gives them the license to become Jesus, they forget
those shoes are just too huge to fill.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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between manipulation and influence; whilst the former is coerced and evil, the
latter is genuine and productive. I think it is plain arrogant to think we can
change other people; how well have we even changed ourselves? If you would be
honest, you would own up to the many times you have been frustrated simply
because you have tried so hard to change certain things about yourself to no
avail. Those bad habits, addictions, bad behavior, I can’t count how many times
I made resolutions that I didn’t honour or how self-talk only got me thus far.
It takes a higher power to cause real and lasting change, that kind of
transformation that is too good to be true. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">We often tend to forget an
important element in transformation; the willingness of the individual.
Willingness cannot be obtained from manipulation or ultimatums but from a
genuine realization of the need for change and a deep hunger to leave the
status quo. However, willingness though important is only the starting point. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Change is such a beautiful
gift; it is indeed a blessing that we can live better lives when we make a
decision to do/be different. Just imagine what living would be like if we all
had to stay the same, unable to do anything to alter our situations,
frustrating doesn’t even begin to describe it. Truly, the awareness of such an
opportunity provides the motivation I need to get out of bed on some mornings
as I draw strength from the endless possibilities in the horizon.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">The problem with trying to
change people though is that it is most times selfish. We can argue and try to
rationalize how noble our intentions are but the reality is that we have a
preferred stereotype for the other party and they don’t look like it. So we
nag, we prod, we push, we threaten, we cajole, we manipulate, we demand, we
blackmail, we do all sorts just to get that person to give up who they are for
who we want them to be. Then we begin to wonder why there is resentment, why
they avoid us, why they clam up when we are around, why the sparkle seems to
have dimmed from their eyes and why they seem to be more stubborn than they
were. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Perhaps, if we remembered that
we didn’t create humans, we might also recognize that we have no right to tell
them who/what to be. Some would even say, ‘if you really love me, you would do
what I ask’. Now, that is a warped definition of love as 1 Corinthians 13: 5 says,
‘love does not demand its own way and it is not irritable’.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I do get that sometimes, we
have genuine concern for people who are making poor choices. One of the
benefits of our relationships is in our ability to influence people and have
positive impact on them. Indeed, it is a great testimony that people learn to
live better lives after they meet us but we don’t achieve that by being
forceful or manipulative. Influence does not erode the other person’s will; it
educates it to consider a different choice.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">What if we just learnt to
accept people for who they are without pressuring them to be different? What if
we just decided what we couldn’t cope with and did the other person a favour by
pursuing the kind we really want? What if we just loved people by not trying to
control them?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">The best way to elicit change
from other people is not to concentrate on them but on you. You have heard that
saying, ‘Be the change you want to see’, it’s not overrated at all. Let your
light so shine that they yearn to have what you got going on. Try to adapt, make
some changes in yourself and watch how the other person responds. More often
than not, changing one’s self is a seed sown to reap changes in others but
remember, to have true and lasting change, you need more than your will power. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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have learnt, it is that the only person I can control is myself and truly, the
only person I need to control is myself.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-68383261061717964062014-11-25T05:10:00.002-08:002014-11-25T05:10:52.257-08:00Whose Lunch are You?<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
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you will be crunched into people's fantasies and eaten alive' - Audre Lorde.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Everybody likes Chris. He is that guy that
has a smile for everyone; upbeat, friendly and sweet. Boredom becomes a myth
whenever Chris is around, one dose of him and you just keep going back for
more.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Enter James; think mousy and you think James,
keen, quiet and sensitive. He is that guy that walks into the room unnoticed.
He yearns to have many friends like Chris does but people just don't seem to
enjoy his company. You see, James' secret desire is to be Chris, to have all
that attention, popularity and charismatic. So he decides to study Chris' MO
and replicate. Determined, he sets on his mission but as the days go by, he
finds himself spent, tired and depressed. He feels like a square peg struggling
to fit into a round hole. Chris made it look so easy that James can't believe
all the effort he is having to expend................<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Back in the day, I was James but not because
I lacked friends or wasn't popular. I was James, the girl who wanted to be
who/what was approved and accepted. I cared so much about what people thought
about me...enough to deny my true self just so I could fit into the acceptable
status quo. My backbone seemed to be on vacation in those days, getting tanned
on a beach leaving me hanging in my needy times. I didn't know how to draw the
line between what I really wanted and what people would have me be. This James
lived in fear, the fear of disapproval and being an outcast. LOL! I laugh now
because this James so wasn't built to blend in, ooh how silly I was to have
lusted after man's approval. At that time, the truth eluded me, the reality
that human approval is erratic and dynamic and that I really could do without.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">If only James would accept his true self and
harness his qualities. If only James would stop comparing himself with Chris.
If only James spent all that time and effort focusing on his strengths, he
might observe that even though he is 'Jerry' on the outside, his mind is all
'Tom'. Perhaps, James would sense that his personality gives him the template
to do certain things, to handle certain positions....to reach certain people.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Can I get real? People will ALWAYS have an
opinion but you gotta listen to Madea when she says, 'honey, it ain't what they
call you, its what you answer to'. In a perfect world, people would learn to
accept others for who they are but we all know the world wherein we exist is flawed.<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Hitherto, you cannot afford to define
yourself based on what people say/feel about you. The cost of sacrificing who
God created you to be on the altar of who people would have you be is enormous.
You are an answer to a question, a solution to a problem and you are just right
for purpose. Even if you do need to be fixed, The One who made you has you on
lock down.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">We need to stop comparing ourselves with
others, its unwise and a recipe for frustration. It is foolhardy to compare two
very different things that were created for very different purposes....to what
end? Imagine that the Sun compared itself to the Moon and decided it was time
to become like it? What if the Root felt the Leaves were getting all the
attention and decided it had just about had enough of being 'behind the scene'?
We can't all have our names on neon signs or flashing across bill boards, some
of us were meant to be behind the curtain holding up the props but you better
recognise that you are just as important as the actor on the stage. Without
your input, the show couldn't come on. Perhaps, if we remembered who the real
Superstar is, we really wouldn't mind playing the background.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Ladies and Gentlemen, this James has grown.
Nowadays, I couldn't give a rat's ass (pardon my French) about what the
majority think; keeping up would be a real task because those opinions
continually change, pointing to <a href="http://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2FConfusionVilla.com%2F&h=WAQHDEOjl&enc=AZM1PaOkA4HtyZ_L2lXNlHF3hil283AIUZlLOHQAgzQiVs6Xq8poNrEOEIsKF4OQvY1ixyQzBfgWECHT_YQ-gGODVxNcCbz1pFwmcapEul5tToA_SsdPBglc0mr8FPu28DRWk_6HACyukqomQUDO8QQLwrgMcuW_SAqh4PFiAdS1xA&s=1" target="_blank">ConfusionVilla.com.</a> There are some people whose
opinions can INFLUENCE me but that number is in the minority and they are
selective. After spending considerable time in that prison, someone expects me
to put those shackles back on? Uh uh, MaryMary would take back my 'Thankful' cd
plus Jesus didn’t die for that.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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lover got to work on me. He unscrewed the default </span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.3999996185303px;">wacky</span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 115%;"> job and replaced it with
a Kingdom compliant version. I stopped seeing myself through the world's lens
and learnt to see myself through His eyes. I learnt that he who didn't create
me has no right to tell me how to be. I finally recognized that if I wanted to
have a fulfilling life, I needed to stop looking to humans for validation and
to focus on being the best of myself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Perhaps you are unrefined gold but it doesn't
change the fact that you are gold. You will shine when you recognise that even
though gold and diamonds are precious stones, they are very different and it is
ok to be different!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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who you are. Then become who God made you to be.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-42358247083221482392014-06-06T06:05:00.001-07:002014-06-06T06:05:54.970-07:00...of Main Chics, Side Chics and the other ChicksHolla!<br />
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I come bearing gifts.....fresh post, fresh post! Looool! I do hope you enjoy reading this post as much as I enjoyed writing it. You will find it here: http://wazobiajournal.com/of-main-chics-side-chics-and-the-other-chicks/<br />
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The link will lead you to the article on Wazobia Journal, please read, share and let me know what you think.<br />
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<br />Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-6273376930226274402014-01-27T03:30:00.000-08:002014-01-27T03:34:57.051-08:00Tradition, the Menace<br />
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Hello Faithfuls! :D<br />
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Welcome to 2014!!! Wow, its the 27th of January already, wasn't it just yesterday we said, 'Happy New Year?' 2013 was such a roller coaster and it brought with it many lessons that I sure would find useful for 2014 and the future years. One thing I have made up my mind to do this year is to stop playing it safe and take up some risks; some feats would never be achieved if we are unwilling to stick out our necks in the face of uncertainty and opposition. More than anything, I realise that divine guidance, focus and diligence are must haves if you want to see those dreams and plans you have on paper materialise. Above all, many are the devices in the heart of man but it is the Lord's counsel that will stand.....if you want to make a headway with your goals and targets, be sure to tell 'em to God first.<br />
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So, to kick start Fountain Flows for the year, I am sharing an article I wrote for a journal, its titled 'Tradition, the Menace' Click the link to read it: <a href="http://wazobiajournal.com/tradition-the-menace/" target="_blank">http://wazobiajournal.com/tradition-the-menace/</a><br />
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Mo' Omoregee 2014Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-72683304870294254522013-10-24T06:23:00.001-07:002013-10-24T06:23:24.042-07:00Change......not an option<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
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the strongest of the species that survive nor the most intelligent, but the one
most responsive to change’ - </span></i></b><b><span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Charles Darwin<i><o:p></o:p></i></span></b></div>
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season of America’s Got Talent, a female escape artist who calls herself
‘Alexanderia the Great’ put on quite a show when she escaped from a
straightjacket under water. I almost fell off my seat in anxiety for her when
the time was almost up and she was still in the jacket……under water! It was
thrilling to watch, the adrenalin rush was undeniable and I was amazed at how
she did it because her survival seemed impossible.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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that go to do with change? Well, I can relate that holding on to certain
mindsets, idiosyncrasies, attitudes, traits and habits that are destructive and
do us no good is like putting on the straightjacket and plunging into
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to see that change is an outstanding gift that God has bestowed on mankind.
It’s one of the characteristics peculiar to humans which lend us an advantage
over animals and inanimate objects, if indeed we embrace it. It is an
opportunity to be in control and re-create; a chance at dynamism and growth. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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like a concept that can be farfetched yet mundane to human existence, the need
to adapt to situations. Change in essence is a renewal of the mind, a shift in
perspective, a decision to employ a different strategy, to think in a different
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change, we are doomed; I mean that in every sense of the word. I have seen over
time how people get sucked into dicey situations that could have been avoided
if something was done differently and in the same vein how circumstances turn
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natural to resist change because it comes with some entropy and heat that not
everyone is willing to face and thus we tend to find it more convenient to
stick with the usual. Sometimes we resist change because of uncertainty….fear
of the unknown. Really, it takes guts to up and leave the comfort zone, albeit
how unpalatable it maybe. Habits are difficult to break, a lot of effort,
commitment and discipline are required and sometimes it can seem like too much
work. You think about what people are going to say, how the changes made will
be interpreted; you worry about the results and then conclude that it is better
to leave things just the way they are.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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you actually yearn for change, you try to but nothing is different and it seems
like growth eludes you. Change requires determination, work, persistence,
consistency and discipline…….but it begins with just a choice, a conscious
decision to think differently. It requires deliberate effort and commitment. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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like your looks, do something about it rather than moan. You feel you can do
better than you are doing right now, then get to work. You are not very pleased
with some habits you have imbibed, break them. You know some of your attitudes
do you no good, lose them. You can see that the friends you have will get you
nowhere, cut them off. Your present results are not great, use a different
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to putting in the required effort and sacrifice it takes to be a better person
than you are. Do not be afraid of the criticism and sneers change may bring
initially, I have discovered that people tend to criticize what they don’t
understand or what makes them uncomfortable but the proof of the pudding will
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change will require you eat the humble pie, go on and swallow it, you won’t get
constipation. Never let pride keep you in a cage that you know you don’t wanna
be in. Do not change to impress people, change to be a better person, for you.
When the nudge to make changes comes with that inner prompting to let certain
destructive things go, don’t fight it in fear. Stand strong and courageous and
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maturity without change because maturity in essence is about a change in
perspective, in the way we interpret things and life. Change is a concept, an
ability and a MANDATE for a child of God, not an option (Rom 12:2). It is your
responsibility and should be a daily attitude!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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one of God’s gifts that we should embrace wholeheartedly and thankfully. A teachable
spirit is one of the most attractive and rewarding character traits an individual
can develop, quite a great add on any single’s CV *wink*<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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pretty sure there is no news to all of the above for some folks but I have this
strong impression that somebody out there needs this, I hope it reaches you. Muchos
Lovos!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">‘Money
isn’t everything but make sure you make enough before you can say that’. Those
are the words captioned in a picture on my phone. Surely, with the present
economy and demands of day-to-day living, I do not need to qualify the
importance of financial stability and buoyancy. The business of living cannot
be achieved without meeting some needs, and even the basic ones require a
medium of exchange which is mostly money. So, while money may not be
‘everything’ and we shouldn’t be controlled by it; living without money can be
a herculean task. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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can get the figures and statistics but all you have to do is take a closer look
around you and you will find that finances is a major score to settle in
marriages. Responsibilities abound and if they are not met, frustration and
conflict tend to set in. Praise George said, ‘poverty will frustrate love until
it fades away’ and I am inclined to agree with him. In the span of two weeks, some
of the occurrences I have experienced reinforce the importance of Financial
Agreement in a marriage and there was no way I was gonna rest until I shared it
on here, so let’s muse together shall we?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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still cannot find the answer to this question a lady asked on a group I belong
to on Facebook: why do most men get offended when their wives ask about how
they spend money? Apparently, some men believe that if they make the money,
they have a right to spend it as they please and are not to be held accountable
to their spouse nor God. That kind of brother shouldn’t have bothered to get
married. In marriage, I believe the ‘my’ is traded for the ‘our’; it’s no more
‘my money’ but ‘our money’ because how money is spent affects the entire family.
Can two walk together except they agree? It’s not a cliché, agreement and compatibility
in finances is imperative. This is an area that should be thoroughly addressed BEFORE
saying ‘I do’.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">Where
there is unity and agreement, there is progress. This is not about financial
affluence or lack but about compatibility and met expectations. Who is gonna
pay which bill? Who is responsible for what? What amount of money do we spend
on feeding and monthly groceries? What standard of living do we want? How often
do we go on vacations? Do we run a joint account or contribute a certain
percentage of our incomes monthly? What percentage of our incomes goes to what?
Who does what? Talk about it and settle it before signing the certificate.
There is no one size that fits all and it really depends on the two individuals
involved but there is a predestined way that God has ordained things and if you
want His blessings and a marriage like he created it to be, you best be doing
it His way. Please <a href="http://fountainflows-omoregee.blogspot.com/2013/07/meet-omoregees-man.html" target="_blank">click here</a> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">In
view of the post provided through the link, the importance of a woman’s role in
a marriage is in no way undermined, Proverbs 31 y’all! Both man and woman have
significant roles to play in the success of a marriage but where finances are
concerned, the man’s role is more prominent and this is why the focus is on the
men. Nowadays, a lot of marriages have mixed up these God ordained roles
and responsibilities. The woman plays the husband’s role while the man becomes
the wife and we wonder why the divorce rate is competing favourably with Mount
Everest.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">Having
established the importance of finances in a marriage and the responsibility of
the man to provide for his home, the onus lies of the two individuals coming
together as man and wife to set the pace they want. Financial Compatibility,
Financial Intelligence/Wisdom, Financial Accountability, value for money,
attitude towards money, background, standard of living are some of the factors
to be considered. A lady from a wealthy home may marry a guy from an average
background if they have an agreement. Can the guy meet up to the standard the
lady is accustomed to or is the lady willing to sacrifice and learn to live in
a more meager way? In my experience, people are usually aiming for financial
increase and not decrease but where there is an agreement, things tend to run
better.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">There
is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman shouldering the family finances when
situations arise and the man cannot, this is why she is a helpmeet BUT it is
NOT the woman’s responsibility to provide for the home and such a situation
shouldn’t be for too long. I am an advocate of a professional career woman who
earns an income and contributes to the family finances, what I however do not
subscribe to is a situation where this is considered her responsibility. No one
wants to marry a liability and it is advisable for women to also earn and
contribute to the finances in the home; this not only boosts the purse of the
family but also provides an enabling and supportive environment. The clause is
when the man becomes comfortable with the woman taking care of all the
financial responsibility in the home. I have seen and heard enough to know that
NO WOMAN is happy carrying the financial responsibility in the home but if you
know one who is, I am willing to meet her. A man is naturally a provider and
takes pride in his ability to cater for his home; it is the way it is.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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clause here is compatibility; don’t be unequally yoked with someone who doesn’t
share your orientation about money and finances: someone who considers taking
vacations a waste of money while you think otherwise, someone who doesn’t have
financial intelligence but wants to control the money, and someone who gambles
and invests on whims, the list is endless. Money can be the root of evil only
when we allow it to be. Money shouldn’t control a man and so it is important
that we understand its workings and do the needful to avoid financial conflicts
in marriage. I am not saying there won’t be money issues in marriage but it
shouldn’t threaten it. If you are in doubt about how money can indeed end a
marriage, I leave you with this real occurrence Praise George shared:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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and Sharon (not real names) were in love and set to marry each other. Jide was
an upcoming artist who was finding his feet and thus didn’t have a regular
income flow while Sharon who is from a wealthy home had a fabulous job with a
fabulous income. They sought counsel from him and he advised Jide to wait till
he had a regular source of income before marrying Sharon who was accustomed to
having the fine things of life, so he could provide them for her. They allayed
his concerns explaining that Sharon’s income was enough to take care of their
financial needs until Jide found his feet. Two years into marriage, they
divorced. Jide’s business did not boom and Sharon got tired of ‘wearing the
pants’ in the home, she felt she even did better as a single than when married.
Need I say more? Nah #nuff said!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-54710236382171539562013-07-27T12:54:00.000-07:002013-07-27T12:54:00.413-07:00Meet Omoregee’s Man
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Hi peoples! So, I really try to
keep my personals off here and strictly focus on the vision that birthed
Fountain Flows but I’m doing this for a number of people who have been bugging
me for ‘that list’, you know that one with the qualities Omoregee’s man must possess.
Well, I am sorry to burst your bubbles but there is NO LIST, just some qualities
that I consider essential.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">What
I will be sharing stems from a message Myles Munroe shared and it has roots in Genesis
2. Emphasis is on the man because of his God-given position as the head of the
home and the example here is from the first marriage (Adam n Eve), we can see a
set order (Eden) in the way God brought Eve to Adam. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">When
God created Adam, He put him in His presence (Eden); that’s the very first
thing God did for Adam, not a woman, not a job but His presence and so if a man
doesn’t carry the presence of God, he really shouldn’t be thinking about
marriage. Harsh? Well, don’t look at me like that, read your bible! If you want
God’s approval, then you have to do it His way. If a man isn’t in the presence of
God, I ain’t even looking at Him.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">Moving
on, the second thing God did for Adam is in Genesis 2:15, pray allow me spell
it: W-O-R-K. God gave Adam work before a woman. A man needs to work before he
gets a woman. In my opinion, what you do with your work will show how well you
can care for a woman. God gave Adam the garden to TEND and KEEP….. that’s to
CULTIVATE. It means to bring out the best in everything around you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>PLEASE NOTE: God only said this to the male
(Adam). The man was ordained to be the provider for his family. Brothers, what
you get out of something is directly proportional to the amount of effort and
commitment you are willing to put into it, it’s a principle. What you want from
your woman is based on what you are determined to do about it. The male was
created by God to cultivate his wife and help her to be the best she could ever
be. I am NOT a feminist, this is the way God planned it, and it is what it is. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Look what Jesus did with the church; He took
out every blemish, wrinkle, washed her and then presented her to Himself, of
course He was mighty pleased with the result! Omoregee desires a man who can
bring her to the very best of herself, someone who is secure enough in himself
to seek her best interests and won’t be threatened by her success. A man who wouldn’t
impede her growth but will help her fulfill purpose and maximize her
potentials.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">Now
after His presence, work and cultivation, God also told Adam to GUARD the
garden, everything under His care. A man should guard and protect his woman,
provide both spiritual and physical covering for her. Omoregee doesn’t want a
man who leaves her to the mercy of influences and opinions. A man who will make
his wife priority in his decisions is one in whom I am well pleased :D<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">Then
God gave Adam His WORD: ‘Do not eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil’.
Now a lot of people like to blame Eve for the downfall of man but she wasn’t
even there when God gave Adam this Word! Can I get a man who knows, WORKS and WALKS
the word?! Thank you, I’ll take that please! I cannot over emphasize the
importance of a man being in position as the spiritual priest of his household,
protecting and covering his home in the spiritual realm.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">So,
when God put the male in His presence, gave him work, had him cultivating,
guarding and tending and also obeying His word, He then decided that it wasn’t
good for THAT man to be alone, then he introduced him to the woman. So, until a
man is doing all of the above, it is good for him to be ALONE, he has no
business getting married. Now, if you have beef with that statement, please
talk it out with the God, I am just the flow bearer yo! :D<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif";">Of
course, these are not the only qualities I look out for but these are the ones
I consider deal breakers. No, it is not a figment of my imagination, men who
possess all of these and more exist and I know a number of them. So, if this is
the kind of man you desire, don’t be discouraged, they may be in the minority
but they are out there. Don’t let nobody tell you different and convince you to
settle; what will work for Jill ain’t gonna cut it for Sarah because they are
different and so are their destinations. For a journey set before you, you need
to get the appropriate ‘ride’ that will get you there, in top condition. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Omoregee 2013<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-50782207575318394792013-06-06T07:43:00.002-07:002013-06-06T08:38:22.434-07:00Your emotions will get the memo…..eventually<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; line-height: 115%;">So, here I am at this mall *window shopping*
and then I spot this really cute footwear. Now, knowing how unique my stature
is and how my size is hard to come by (yea, really unique things come in small
packages *wink*), I am sorely tempted to make the purchase. Then the deliberation
begins; I remember the ones I have sitting in my rack back home yet to be worn,
the stuff I just bought last week and how I promised myself I needed a purchase
leave. But the slippers seemed to have my name on it and I could hear it whispering,
saying ‘you know how good I can make you look’. Then I imagine myself stepping
out in it, complete with the right outfit and accessories (<i>smh</i>). That was my undoing, for the slippers made it home with me,
oh and two other outfits as well.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; line-height: 115%;">Ok, who was I deceiving? I was on a purchase
leave, yet, I went ‘window shopping’ and took my credit card along. I set
myself up and no, my bank account wasn’t pleased with me. I knew further
purchase wasn’t the best for me at that time, it really wasn’t what I needed
and I shouldn’t have done it, but I damned the consequences and did it anywayz…..setting
back my budget and hurting my finances.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; line-height: 115%;">‘Guard your heart with all diligence for it
will direct the course of your life’. Even in the mundane things, in every
decision and choice, our hearts are involved. Whatever will manifest in your
life must first of all take root in your heart, if it’s not implanted there, it
won’t last. The heart is the staying strength that provides stability and
firmness; stability in values, principles and character. This is why the
instruction about guarding our hearts is pertinent, because just as it requires
quite some effort to uproot a firmly rooted tree from the soil, so it is to
uproot destructive habits and relationships from your heart and life. You can
cut the stump but if the root is still there, it’s just gonna grow right back.
To successfully deal with issues, we have to get to the root and get it out,
only then would it cease to re-occur. See, what you know in your head cannot be
compared to the knowledge that wells from your heart because that feedback has
taken time to process, grow and re-produce.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; line-height: 115%;">I have come to learn that my heart and head have a relationship going
on…..took awhile before they let me in on it though. Sometimes, they are in
sync and other times, they have a beef. At these times, they usually wear me out
and I find myself in a referee position, trying to decide who wins the tussle
in that instance. I really think they should put up that facebook status
sometimes, ‘it’s complicated’. Heart is trying to gain the upper hand, head
isn’t having it and at the end of the day, I am just exasperated because
really, they should be working together…..for my good.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">Here’s how it works for me; when I learn
something new, get a new revelation or insight, my head is usually the first to
catch on, not always but usually. In trying to process and pass the new
information to a fertile ground where it can grow and produce fruit (my heart),
some things try to block it. They come in different forms: fear, unbelief,
doubt, insecurity, low self-esteem, </span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">etc.</span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;"> – all emotions. If I haven’t erected
the right barricade, these unwanted guests will come in to choke the new
seed/word/info I just obtained and suck the life out of it rendering it
powerless. However, if it indeed can gain root in my heart and grow, it would
produce tremendous changes in my life. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">The spirit that governs a man’s life
influences the state of his heart and the quality of his life. Even God deals
with us based on the state and meditation of our hearts and this depicts just
how important the heart is and in no way undermines it. However, there are
times when the heart can weak, slow or stubborn in accepting what is right and true
and these are the times when leading your heart is more expedient than
following it, </span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">I'm</span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;"> just saying you are the boss of what you lead, not what you
follow so stop ‘following your heart’.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; line-height: 115%;">You know that you should let that guy go
because he keeps abusing your emotions but you can’t seem to find the strength
because your heart is weak and hurt. Your head is harping on the fact that you
deserve better than a woman who manipulates you just for her gain but you are
too entranced with her physical beauty and the sex you are getting. Yes, you
know you deserve better, you hear it, you have the knowledge but you can’t seem
to find the strength to make the change. Here’s what I propose……how about you
do what you KNOW to be right, true and just and then deal with the emotions
that come up after? How about you let the knowledge you have make the decision
for you this time and then allow your emotions to catch up with it? It may take
awhile and involve some healing process but I can guarantee that your emotions will
eventually come into sync with your heart. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; line-height: 115%;">Choices made sentimentally or emotionally
cannot be compared with a knowledge based decision. If you ask me, <b>I’d say <i>the
choice of who you get to spend the rest of your life with should be made based
on what you know and not what you feel.</i></b> I find that I can be so
emotionally involved with someone and possibly ‘in love’ but if there is an ish
that presents incompatibility, I promptly let go. I ain’t gonna front and say
it ain’t hard but perhaps because I know how important my choices are,
especially this type of choice, I do what I need to do, what is best for me
knowing my heart will eventually be fine.
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">Knowing </span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">isn't</span></span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;"> good enough, we have to apply
the knowledge we have to experience true victory in our lives. You have the
knowledge in your head, but you require the will that only comes from your
heart to make it happen. Don’t wait for your feelings to get the memo, you do
what you gat to do and it would eventually catch up, it </span><span style="line-height: 18px;">wouldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> have a choice.
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Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-48540231201374218452013-04-25T01:42:00.000-07:002013-04-25T04:45:22.174-07:00That Men Would Submit to their Wives……<br />
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just about ready to take me apart and grind the parts…let me save you the
hassle by informing you that I strongly agree that a wife must submit to her
husband as her head, so please erase the enemy line drawn, I am in your camp :)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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it professionally know the importance of having a recipe that suits your
purpose and following that recipe to the last detail. Just two pinches of salt
above the recommended and the taste may not be the same. A recipe is so
important that it can become a family tradition passed on to generations after
generations and kept secret! Have you ever asked a friend what stunts she pulls
to get her pie/cake/cocktail to taste the way it does and the best she can do
for you is offer to make you some? Or she considers for awhile and says, ‘it’s
a family secret…..if I told you, I’d have to kill you’. I’m telling you, you
best be running for your dear life, she ain’t playing……there’s a
0.0000000000000001% probability she will include poison in that recipe, statisticians
would agree with me that you don’t ignore that kind of percentage, it means
something! Let it be known now that I did warn you (yes, yes, I’m kidding of
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">So, there is a recipe for just about everything: a
recipe for food, a recipe for living, recipe for failure and of course, a
recipe for marriage. We all know God is generous and wouldn’t withhold His own
recipes and when it comes to marriage, He freely passed it down, nothing held
back. (See Ephesians 5: 21-33). It’s important not to put the cart before the
horse when following a recipe, there’s no way you are adding the vegetable
before the palm oil and you expect the soup to come out looking crispy and
green and tasting like mama’s……you should have followed her recipe just the way
she told you to if you wanted to get your soup to look and taste like hers.
When God says we should forgive before praying, that order wasn’t a mistake. When
He said to have friends, you need to first of all show yourself friendly; it
was and is the right pattern. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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word and then kick the ones that aint so palatable to the curb. Sadly, every
word, every single instruction, no matter how irrelevant and minute we consider
it to be counts with the maker. There’s no taking one and leaving the other….I
read Matthew 5 recently and when it got to the part that says calling someone
an idiot brings you to judgment, I had to pause, reality check. It’s so easy to
be focused on avoiding the ‘big sins’ but those little things we tend to ignore
are not necessarily little with God. To walk with God, we cannot ignore order
and detail, there is a due process to attract a particular reward and there are
certain details involved in that process.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Almost everyone I know desires a happy, fruitful,
blissful and rewarding marriage. We want it to go all the way, to be successful
in it, to bear fruit and achieve purpose…..yes, every marriage should have a
purpose, gist for another day. Now, the husband is the head of the wife and the
home but sadly, only few men really understand what that means. Leadership is a
position of service and intense responsibility, not lordship and tyranny. The
recipe for a Godly and successful marriage is depicted in the relationship
between Christ and the Church: Husbands, love your wives……wives, respect and
submit to your husbands. I have seen examples of how this process works and I
must say, it works mighty fine for the people who really, truly understand it.
What I do find interesting though is that just before this instruction was
given, there is a clause, <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">‘and further,
submit to one another out of reverence for Christ’</b>. Then after the
instruction, there is another interesting sentence and it says, <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">‘a man leaves his father and mother and is
joined to his wife and the two are united into one’</b>. I believe these
sentences hold as much importance as the other ones we tend to focus more
on…..the ones about submission and loving.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">No, I don’t hate men, no, I’m not a feminist and no,
I’m not biased…..the basis of my emphasis is what God himself has said. As much
as it the prerogative of the wife to fully submit to her husband and respect
him, as off as it may sound, the husband should also be willing to submit to
his wife. Husband and wife should submit to one another out of reverence for
Christ. How? I’m glad you asked! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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opinion and input, you may not agree with it but genuinely consider her stance.
Just because the husband is the head doesn’t mean it always has to be his way
or the highway, it can be a blessing to sometimes listen to your wife and take
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with their wives before taking decisions….both major and minor ones. Again,
eventually, your decision may hold but communication helps you share your
innermost thoughts and fosters some understanding.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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in his choices and decisions, not his mama, not his siblings, not his work, nor
his pleasures. A man can submit to his wife by making her a priority
consideration in his actions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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maybe you would use another vocabulary; all </span>I'm saying is: respect should be
mutual and not one-sided. It's not right that the husband expects unreserved
respect and the wife is denied the respect due to her. That kind of arrangement
ain’t gonna cook up success. Let both husband and wife submit to one another
out of reverence for Christ and this institution called marriage would be a
better place for its students.<br />
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not the law neither is it what is universally acceptable but it is what I
consider right. Let’s see if you agree with my reasoning. If you disagree, be
free to share your view and perhaps we can learn one or two things.</b></div>
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is often said that a man’s meat could be the other’s poison. That saying spells
the diversified interest of humans. I always say that if God had created
everyone the same way with the same interests, reasoning and approach to
issues, oh, what boredom we would have to live with. The entire population that
spans the earth cuts across different nations, tribes, belief systems, cultures,
languages and habits that all contribute to the beauty of existence. It’s
interesting how siblings can grow up with the same measure of instructions,
teachings and discipline and still turn out differently with totally different
personalities. I mean when I am going on and on about the newest animated movie,
my sister just stares at me like I have suddenly grown horns. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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we make choices, sometimes they are poor, perhaps because we </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">didn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> know better
and immaturity was at play or we allowed sentiments and emotions get ahead and
threw reasoning to the back seat. The average human being has made poor choices
at one point in life, a poor choice in friends, a poor career choice, poor
institution choice, poor house choice. It is comforting to know that some of
these choices can be rectified but a poor spousal choice can be the beginning
of the end. Little wonder so much is being said about how important it is to
choose right and choose well when it comes to a marital partner. Our choices
and decisions in life can either make or mar not just the future but everything
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you meet someone and decide to date/court…..along the way, you discover some
issues that present incompatibility, perhaps you alone can see those issues,
perhaps its mutual. Any hoo, the relationship ends and you go your separate
ways, having moved on to other people or maybe not. Fast forward a year or two,
a very good friend of yours wants you to meet his/her intended and it turns out
to be your Ex. Then comes this feeling of betrayal, because you feel your
friend who knew your history with this person </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">shouldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> have gone ahead with
the relationship and even if they </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">didn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> know you dated your Ex at a point, you
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issue has caused a lot of rifts and cracks in beautiful friendships so much
that I need to talk about it because I just don’t get it; maybe someone can explain
it to me? Is it the level of familiarity that makes it unacceptable or perhaps
because you have shared a lot of secrets with this friend? Or is it because of
the circumstances that led to the break up and the fact that it </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">wasn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> you who
ended it? Could it be that you have some regrets and wishful thinking, still
hanging on and cannot let go? Really, I want to understand why it feels so much
like back stabbing when a friend gets involved with an ex, and this is
especially common with ladies. Why does it feel like you still own an Ex and
nobody in your network is allowed to have access to him/her?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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sought the opinions of a couple of friends on this dicey topic and the
disparity was quite interesting. While some would feel a great sense of
betrayal if a friend dated their ex, some others just </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">couldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> be bothered,
matter of fact, a couple have been known to introduce close friends to their ex
because they felt they would be compatible. Some </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">wouldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> feel uncomfortable
about it if they have moved on to other relationships while some outrageously
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I wrong to say maturity is a factor here? </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">Isn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> it petty and somewhat arrogant
to try to control who your friend can date/court? Is it perhaps a mistake your
Ex met you before your friend and just because they </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">couldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> be happy with you,
they have no chance with your friend? I think we need to get ‘born again’ in
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where my opinionated self will be butting in: There is a reason why an Ex is an Ex, not
necessarily because the person is bad but because both of you are not meant to
be together. I do not see a reason why a friend is banned from dating your Ex,
especially if they were not aware of your relationship and even if they know, I
don’t think it is right to sit upon another person’s chance at finding the
right one. It just so happens that you know each other but really if you have
truly moved on from that Ex, there </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">shouldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> be hard feelings about who dates
them, albeit your friend or even a sibling. Perhaps because your friend loves
you a whole lot, he/she could seek your blessing/approval before they go ahead
with the relationship but sweetie, really, they are not obligated to bend towards
whatever sentiments you may have. It’s not like you were double crossed and had
the person snatched from you, you were done and over before your friend came
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long as there was clearly no emotional attachment between them while your
relationship with the ex lasted and your ex </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">didn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> cheat on you with your
friend……you were well done and over before they became involved, why are you
losing sleep? I just don’t get it! Your friend does the needful and informs you
about his/her intention, all you owe that friend is your advice. Hopefully your
reasons why they </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">shouldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> be together are genuine and not borne out of
jealousy and ill feelings. People, live and let live. Some people do not get it
right in relationships the first, second, third time. Along the way, they meet
someone they truly gel and can be happy with……alas! This someone is an ex’s
friend, should that be the end? Don’t be the Philistine to their Israel, don’t be
a party pooper or show stopper, if you think they </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">wouldn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> work, offer your
advice and let them make their decision……you are not God! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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understand there are situations that can make having an ex close messy, maybe
it reminds you of a past you would rather forget, perhaps it is irritating to
share a former sexual partner with your friend, perhaps the break up hurt you
so much and you can’t get over the bitterness and its possible you still have
feelings for your Ex. We do need to protect ourselves and guard our hearts, so share
your reservations with your friend and let them make a decision, DO NOT
THREATEN THEM. The truth is your friend is not obligated to accommodate your
misgivings because he/she also has to protect his/her interest but there can be
an understanding borne out of love. Just because I love my friend so much and I
cherish the friendship and can understand how my relationship with that Ex
would alienate her (reasonably so), I can decide not to pursue it, but this
decision is solely mine and not my friend’s.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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am a girl but I have not been one to follow the ‘girl code’ and this is because
I don’t believe in rules, I follow only principles. I don’t let what some
people have decided to be acceptable control my world; God’s standards are my
words to live by. We need understanding in what all we do, we can’t just follow
rules blindly because the situations are not usually the same. People can
reason together to reach a decision that works for all parties but when all is said
and done, each individual is responsible for his/her choice and no one has any
right to control it, even God </span><span style="line-height: 14px;">doesn't</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"> He gives us our free will.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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should be sure about what you are asking for because God tells us to ask and we
would be given, according to the measure of our faith. Many times we do not
know what we want and even when we do, we are not specific enough. Now, we know
that sometimes we don’t get exactly what we ask God for but He is a faithful
father that wouldn’t give stones as bread to His children, He gives the best to
His children.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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to pursue a relationship with. My friend said, ‘but he is a good guy’ and I
replied, ‘I don’t want a good guy!’ A lot of us want good things out of life, a
good house, good job, good car, good investment, good clothes and also good
spouses. I recently met someone whose slogan is ‘better than good!’ Whenever
you ask him how he is doing, he would reply ‘better than good!’ At first I
thought he was being a bit dramatic but I realize he was only saying he could
do better than ‘good’. I am also saying to you that you can do better ‘good’,
you can have the best.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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for the good and focus on the ‘God’. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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a church man/woman, not a Christian man/woman but a <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">GOD</b> man/woman; a true Christian man/woman who is given to the word
of God and His standards and who is not afraid to go against the norm to please
and obey God. A person whose obligation is to God and not man, whose choices
are informed by biblical instructions and not the flesh, who would irreversibly
love God more than you because that is the only way he/she is going to put your
interest above theirs. The average (good) human being is selfish; it’s in the
nature of man to seek his own interest but a person given to God will deny his
flesh to promote the interest of his/her family. A God-man will be faithful to
his wife not because he loves her but because his obligation to God is
stronger. Even if he does stray, his conscience calls him back.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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usually have most of the noble character traits we desire in a spouse- they are
nice, caring, ambitious, hardworking, truthful, generous,…….so you see, it’s
not about being totally off the deal, a ‘good’ person is a look alike but not
the real deal. A ‘good’ person is given to moral standards but over time, I
have found this to fail largely because the flesh is still at play and can
wreck havoc at any time, in any circumstance whatsoever despite the good
intentions of the ‘good’ person but a God-person is given to the control and help
of the Holy Spirit to subdue the flesh. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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and decisions made in the flesh and rooted in selfishness. If a man is not
living up to his responsibility to provide adequately for his family, not because
he doesn’t have the means to, the flesh is at play. If a spouse is cheating on
the other, the flesh is being gratified, if a woman refuses to submit to her
husband, her flesh is getting the attention and if a man cannot love his wife
more than himself, his flesh is still very much alive. Like I said, we need to
be very specific about what we want in life. I tell people I desire to marry a
man who loves me like Christ loves the church. Therefore, a ‘good’ guy just
wouldn’t make the deal for me because he wouldn’t understand what that means; a
God-man however would because he has allowed himself to be schooled by Christ.
It is very important to know what we want and make it plain so we do not settle
when we face delays. I don’t know about you but I do not want to settle in Ur
like Terah did, I want to be like my father Abraham, I gat my eyes on the
Promised Land.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">There are so many benefits in waiting for a God-person,
especially a God-man. You are sure of a sound spiritual covering; you find it easy
to submit to him because you know who influences his choices. You do not have
to worry about some things, there is just a peace and calm that radiates from a
woman married to a God-man, because he gets it right. I have quite a number of
testimonies around me and I can confidently tell you that a God-man/woman is
the real deal if you want a beautiful marriage. I remember an experience Late
Pastor Bimbo Odukoya shared about how her husband who was in a different
continent had a dream about death lurking around her. She said she had assumed
the position of a corpse and her husband turned her from that position three
times in the dream before he woke and began to pray. The next morning, he
called to ask about her welfare and happenings around and was informed that
their neighbour three houses away died overnight.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Tell me that is coincidence? A prayer warrior
as a husband is better than a handsome prince!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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need to make choices in the context of the future we want, however in the
choosing a marital partner, it is also important that we be the choices we
want. If you desire a particular kind of person, you also need to work at being
that kind of person. If you want a God-man/woman, you need to be a God-person
as you will attract exactly the same kind of person you are, do not be deceived
for God cannot be mocked. You get to decide what your future will be, you get
to choose who to spend the rest of your life with, you can do better than ‘good’,
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Maturity is a state of being mature- to be fully developed in body or mind, as a person. Being completed, perfected or elaborated in full by the mind is another way to understand maturity. Maturity is usually synonymous to adulthood, children are not expected to be mature but adults sure are. Certain things are restricted and termed ‘for adults’ because it is believed that this set of people are fully equipped and have the wherewithal to handle the exposure/challenge/information to be received. Children have restricted and censored information passed across to them, as they grow and approach certain ages and stages, the required and relevant information and knowledge is released to them. Now, some children especially the inquisitive ones find out stuff they are not supposed to at a certain age and pending on how they get the info, they tend to misuse it and make mistakes because they are not equipped to handle such info at that stage. We should watch what we expose children to but at the same time strike a balance by providing the right information they need when they are ripe for it so they don’t seek out these vital information by themselves and end up getting misinformed.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Maturity doesn’t depend on age but they are not mutually exclusive. Usually, with age comes maturity, as we grow older, we are supposed to become better, wiser, stronger in body and mind……we are supposed to mature just like the older the wine, the finer it is, so it should be with humans but alas, this is not always so. I find some children to be more mature than certain adults and I stop to wonder what influences our maturity? Well, here’s what I think: background, upbringing, exposure to knowledge and experiences, the zeal to learn, quality of education and some other factors can influence and determine our level of maturity.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I also find that some people resist growing up and just want to stay in the comfort zone of being a child……..even at a ripe age of 30! You see, with growing up comes lots of responsibilities that some adults are not willing to face and hence we are presented with irresponsible adults in the society. May I say responsibility is not just about being able to pay the bills or bring home the bacon but also involves being capable of making some vital decisions that will affect certain lives involved in good judgment and selflessly. Oh, I’m talking about maturity in relationships and marriage now.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">A child has no business being in a relationship or getting married, oh no this is solely for the mature. A person who doesn’t understand what responsibility is all about shouldn’t be walking down the aisle or standing at one end of it, heck they shouldn’t even be in a relationship. When a ‘child’ marries another ‘child’, they gonna birth chaos. There are certain roles that God has stipulated in a marriage, if we are not mature enough to fully occupy and play these roles, we shouldn’t even consider getting married. A man who has no job or business venture or investment or source of income has no business taking a wife, how on earth is he going to provide for her? When a man takes a woman away from her parents, he better be able to take care of her. Are you a man easily given to anger and you destroy when overcome by anger? You should check that before you think about buying a ring please. A man that cannot stand his ground against external influence and manipulation in the affairs of his home has absolutely no business getting married. The man shall LEAVE and CLEAVE to his wife. When a man is easily influenced by what people have to say and especially has to seek his parents/family approval for choices and decisions in his home, that man should please stay single. We can seek counsel and advice from people but ultimately, our decisions should be solely ours and consideration should be given to the people involved and affected by the decision. Can you as a man make selfless decisions that are not governed around your interest alone….to perhaps massage your ego? There was a situation recently whereby a man told his fiancée she couldn’t pursue a career and should be a stay-at-home mum. Now that isn’t such a bad thing but it was discovered that this decision stemmed from insecurity and a warped sense of submission influenced by the man’s father. The guy believed that for him to be a man and have control of his home, the woman had to be stripped of every form of personal ambition and focus on him and the home. Don’t be appalled, for real; there are people who think like that.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">A man is the head of the home and ultimately gives the final verdict on the affairs of the home. He should be a man of sound judgment protecting the interest of his family……his immediate family. Call me extreme but I believe a man that cannot protect his wife from his family and friends but just leaves her to the mercy of their judgment and criticism should also not think about getting married. If his wife has faults, I believe it should be handled between them and God, not by the third party. Why is he called the cover? Christ did not castigate the church and she was not without blemish. He didn’t leave her to the wolves and the Sadducees. He stood, fought, pleaded and avenged her case. A man who cannot cover his family (in prayers especially) shouldn’t be proposing to a woman for of what use is a house without its roof?</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Likewise, a woman who cannot control her emotions has no business accepting a man’s ring. I say this because it is a given that women are quite emotional and there is a tendency to be controlled by these emotions some of them negative. ‘A wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman allows her emotions control her actions and her mouth’…..Mo’s version. Can she spend time to invest in her husband and support him? Can she sacrifice some of her personal dreams and aspirations for her family? Let’s get real y’all, I hear you career woman, I know I want to be one but while it is possible to be both….wife n CEO, the more important of the two is family and when it gets to that point that certain sacrifices have to be made to uphold the interest of the family, can you make the sacrifice? If you know that career comes before family for you, please don’t say ‘I do’, ‘cos you don’t. A woman builds the home, shapes it and sets the tempo and melody, she has the first opportunity to influence the child and shape his mind set……are you set to do a fine job?</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Are you a woman who has absolutely no skill in the kitchen and home maintenance? Who is gonna take care of your home, the servants? These people are there to help not take over, a woman should coordinate every aspect of her household as the scripture says, ‘she carefully watches everything in her household’. Can you encourage, pray for, care for and truly love a man even when he is not living up to his responsibility or treating you right? I believe an answer to this will probably help check divorce rates, remember it’s supposed to be ‘for better, for worse’.</span></div>
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Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-83308617128042938272012-07-18T04:17:00.000-07:002012-07-18T04:17:27.432-07:00Mind over MatterWhen I think about the intricacies that involve the mind, I am in awe especially because it seems like something particular to an individual yet totally out of grasp. The mind houses our thoughts, it’s where change is birthed, where decisions are made, where power is generated, where vision is conceived, where mistakes are made and where sin is committed. Most times, the act isn’t where we have gone wrong, it is in our inability to decide to do right in our mind and in the thoughts we give free reign which eventually gives birth to the act……we forget that our thoughts define us, before our actions do. The mind is so important yet we tend to undermine the potency of its power. We focus more on the exterior and allow it control the interior which will present a casualty because the interior was designed to control the exterior.<br />
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A computer is programmed to run based on the software applications installed in it. The monitor, keyboard and mouse are some of the external parts while the parts we cannot see, the Motherboard, CD Drives, Interface Card, Chip sets, RAM cards, etc are essentially what brings value to the computer. Now, note that the external parts are all the same but the RAM, programs and software applications differ and depend on the preference of the programmer. The value I get from my computer is not based on the screen or mouse type essentially but is because of what I can do with/on it. The problems I can solve with it, the things I can save on it, the different applications that serve to make my life easier and better.<br />
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Every human has a pair of eyes, a nose, a mouth, two hands, two legs……same external features but what really makes us different is the programs (mindsets, idiosyncrasies, thought patterns, belief systems) we have installed in our minds. This determines the value we bring to our selves and the society. Now, when a virus is introduced into the computer, it distorts normal function and threatens to crash the hard drive. Sometimes, an antivirus can successfully clean the system out, but in the difficult cases, the drive needs to be formatted and totally wiped out to properly function again.<br />
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When the storms of life come our way, when challenges arise, when it seems like nothing is working and everything threatens to crash, how do we find a way to get back to a state of proper function? Think about it, the virus does not target the monitor, mouse or keyboard, it goes for the most important part of the computer which is vital to its function. We need to understand that the trials and issues we go through daily may seem overwhelming but if they cannot get to the very core of our being, we keep standing. Situations and circumstances will try to mess with your mind and distort the programs installed in there but this can only happen if you let them.<br />
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It is very important to have the right programs installed in our human system. What you feed into your mind is what comes back to you; the measure of work you subject your mind to will determine the measure of worth that you get. So many things that are totally against God’s standards have become the norm but the only way to stand firm and not conform is to ensure we have the right knowledge by updating (renewing) the programs(mind) continually from the manufacturers (God). In a world where so many incidences threaten our peace and faith, the only way to stay sane is to stay connected to a source of inner peace (God) which is inspite of circumstances, peace that surpasses all understanding.<br />
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With having the right program also comes the responsibility of installing a potent antivirus (faith), it is critical to load up your ‘antivirus’. When you buy a computer, you are advised to get a potent antivirus to install on the system before you begin use, this is because for a computer that will live up to its value and use, lots of applications, internet downloads and file transfers will occur. These activities will present a viral threat but the presence of an antivirus protects the system from crashing. You can try to watch the discs and flash drives (songs and videos) you use on the system, the sites you visit (company and friends) and files you download on the internet but some viruses are stubborn and tricky and still find a way of sneaking up on you. When you have an already installed potent antivirus though, the virus meets a dead end and gets destroyed.<br />
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I remember this story of a sick man in the hospital but the doctors couldn’t diagnose his ailment. A close friend told him about some medicine that could heal him but he had to take it religiously. The man having tried different physicians to no avail decided to have faith in his friend’s medication. He took the meds routinely and started getting better, eventually he came back to good health and when he asked his friend what drug he was given his friend smiled and said, ‘candy’.<br />
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What you believe in will work for you. The mind is so powerful; it can control the body irrespective of what may be happening to it. A healthy mind can heal a sick body, family or nation. No matter who you are or where you come from, if you can conceive those ideas in your mind, you can realize them. We need to stop focusing on the challenges that threaten our growth and channel our efforts into building the right mindsets that will transform our lives. Culture, people, background, friends, the environment, recession, challenges cannot hold you down if they cannot penetrate into your mind to dilute and distort the way you think. The mind takes preeminence over whatever the matter may be, if you let it. YOU get to decide how situations will affect you. I leave you with words from Napoleon Hill, ‘there is no limitation to the mind except that which we acknowledge’.<br />
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Muchos lovosOmoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-55665597880667998862012-05-31T10:53:00.000-07:002012-05-31T10:55:29.665-07:00Keep it moving, he’s taken!<br />
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The reward for hard work is usually success, not all the time but most of the time. Success requires a lot of hard work and some more. You need determination, diligence, consistency, wisdom and lots of faith. It is possible to work hard and not work smart, usually I find that to work smart, I always have to draw up my scale of preference to decide what is most important and work from that to the less important. These and some other things but that’s beside the focus of this write up here.</div>
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I have come to discover that the more one works at something, the clearer one’s perspective is and the better one becomes; be it a skill, art or intellectual rite. It’s the same ol’ saying- ‘practice makes a man perfect’ you want to make something better, you don’t go to sleep, you stay awake and work at it, learning new ways to improve and add value and if you keep it at, you begin to reap the fruits of your labour. Its like watching a lily flower open up, days of nurture, attention and the bud sprouts and opens into a beautiful flower. The feeling of satisfaction and joy is profound.</div>
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Now, it doesn't come easy, that's why its called HARD work. You put in all that time n effort, nurture, attention, investment, resources and so much heart and just when you are about ready to lean back and enjoy the harvest from nowhere comes the thief, wanting the results but not the work.</div>
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Each time i hear about Lil Miss Thing going after someone’s husband, I wonder where the bolt that’s supposed to keep the sense intact went to. It’s not even so much about the die-hard principle of seed time n harvest which no one can do anything about, or the law of karma that tells us ‘what goes around comes around’ but I just can’t help but wonder......how do they sleep at night?</div>
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How do you live with yourself knowing the havoc you are causing in a home n union put together by God? Lady, you wanna mess with somebody, please don’t choose God, you will drown! A marriage is ordained by God, He is very much interested in that institution and when He gets reports about someone messing it up, He doesn’t take it lightly at all! To be held responsible for breaking up a covenant is not a good add on your CV, trust me, you don’t want to be in the ring facing God, you could never win. I mean the so many reasons and excuses these strange women give ...... ‘she doesn’t meet his needs’ ‘she doesn’t satisfy him sexually’ ‘he’s lonely’ bla bla bla.......Jesus is coined ‘saviour’ not you honey.....there is absolutely no reason justifiable to be entangled with a married man.</div>
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I know some men go after other ladies even while married, but if they had no one to indulge ‘em, I wonder what they will do? Let’s see......they probably would be forced to look into their marriages and work at it, since they have no one/place to turn to.....and this is how it should be. Now, there are some men minding their business and here comes Lil Miss Thing recognising what a mine he is sets her claws to score herself ‘a good catch’. Either she’s looking to entertain herself, milk him dry or take over the wife position, whatever the motive is, the handle is- that kind of strategy has no blessing in it. Ain’t nothing sugary about a daddy or uncle, you can’t grow while causing somebody pain, it doesn’t work that way.</div>
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When a man is married, he is off limits, committed, taken, sold out, off the market, not available, $%^#!&%$!.........for those who don’t speak English. Personally, when a guy is in a relationship, he is off limits for me but I understand there is still a possibility of him making a different choice in the future but with marriage, he already made a choice and sweetie, it isn’t you. He chose her, forget that fib about he wishing he met you first, believe it or not, there were other options around when he chose her and he didn’t do it with his eyes closed, men don’t make such decisions half-heartedly, it is a very calculated one. Now, as if playing second fiddle isn’t bad enough, you really think he loves you don’t you? Then why is he still in the marriage? I mean God gave you a brain sister, please use it!</div>
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Why do you have to go after what belongs to someone else? You don’t believe you are good enough to get yours? You don’t trust God to bless you with a good man? That man is attractive to you because his wife invested in him, why don’t you also invest in a man and watch him blossom? And when he does, would you like to give him away to another woman?</div>
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I think there are enough men to go around if you would just be patient and wait for yours. Is there a delay? Pray, work on yourself, acquire skills, become a better person. If you admire and would like someone like Mr. Husband, do not covet him, try and find out what it takes to attract someone like him. Even if he does leave his wife for you, can you be sure he wouldn’t also leave you for another Miss Thing? Stop setting yourself up for failure, be honourable, keep your claws off married men and the good Lord will smile upon you.</div>
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Having respect for marital commitment can also be the beginning of wisdom, ‘cause that shows you fear the Lord and the next time you spot a sister gunning after a married man, you know what you gotta do.........give her a good punch, to knock some sense into her. I'm Kidding!!!</div>
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Mo’</div>Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-30499056116265686772012-03-18T12:00:00.000-07:002012-03-18T12:00:04.024-07:00Stop the Pain, NOT Your Life! 4<br />
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friends/spiritual leaders have a part to play by holding up your hand when you
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part to play by bracing yourself up, letting go, forgiving, learning from the
past and hanging in there in God’s presence never letting him go. As Jacob told
that angel he wrestled with “I will not let you go, unless you bless me”. Don’t
let go of His presence. You need it….it’s your lifeline!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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part to play which He will never fail to do. He is faithful. He is the
Restorer, and He gives BEAUTY FOR ASHES!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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look back, and I wonder to myself how I ever went through that ordeal without
going on leave from work, or going crazy. I had to leave my work in church for
a while because at that time I was a minister for married women and I had just
lost a marriage, so I felt I didn’t have anything to offer them at that time. I
later came back after a month to join the work force and this decision blessed
my life tremendously because we shall SERVE the Lord our God, and He shall
bless our bread and our water and take sickness away from our midst. All Glory
to God!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">The answers
to how I went through the pain with my life not stopping are the major lessons
that I have shared above. Your healing process doesn’t have to take several
months or years. Some months after my experience, I was already radiating JOY,
it didn’t take too long after then, I was bubbly and jumping all over the
place. Even my colleagues at work could not understand what had come over the
usual ‘quiet me’. I was more alive; the dead look was gone and gone forever.
Praise God!!!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Today as I
write, several months down the line, I am free of every pain and regret, and my
life has progressed remarkably, and it can only get better. 2 Cor. 1: 3-4 says
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies
and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulations, that we may be
able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we
ourselves are comforted by God. I have received this comfort, and I constantly
run to Him…and so I can tell you this: Don’t let this pain kill you or make
your life stop my dear, maintain the right attitude and you will give birth to
more in the future than you have lost in the past. (I learnt that statement
from a book I read by Joel Osteen) – Becoming a Better you! A must read for
every believer, I must say. Joel Osteen made a statement that changed my life,
marked my mind and stayed with me. He said “I don’t believe that divorce is
God’s best. Unfortunately, sometimes it is unavoidable, when all the options
are placed on the table, divorce sometimes is the ‘best’ option there is to
follow at that time, else a destiny destroyed, a life crushed or worsened and
more havoc caused. If you have been through a divorce, understand that God
still has another plan for your life. Just because someone rejected you or
walked out of your life and left you hurt, doesn’t mean you should retreat and
settle where you are. That rejection or failure of a marriage doesn’t change
what God has put on the inside of you. It doesn’t mean that you cannot be
happy. <b>When one door closes, <u>if you
will keep the right attitude, God will</u> <u>open another door.</u> But you
have to do your part and keep pressing forward”.<o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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a</span><span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">dd to the population of the bitter people we
have on earth you deserve a better life. Rise up and brace yourself. No pain is
worth you dying, no pain is worth you losing your mind, no pain is worth you
losing that glorious destiny of yours, no pain is worth killing that BEAUTIFUL
YOU! Rise up and come out of that fire stronger, better and wiser such that
your world would have no choice but to celebrate you. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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help or assistance to walk/work with you step by step on your specific
situation or someone to talk to, kindly send an e-mail to <span style="background: yellow; mso-highlight: yellow;">thistooshallpass@gmail.com</span>,
someone would respond to you and we would all learn from one another and grow
together, we can affect lives and be a help to our generation. God is mindful
of us, and He sure will see us through. I love you all dearly, and I see a
greater and better you! Rise up to the challenge, Yes we can! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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kinds of pain, this is applicable. Is it something that you have done wrong? Is
it a sin that so easily entangles you? Is it a habit? You still need to stay
accountable, seek help, brace yourself and forgive yourself. Let it go and go
for God’s presence like never before. Hang in there in His presence and His
WORD by praying in the spirit and speaking His word. These perform wonders
ICor14:4!!! Pray in the Spirit like never before and refire. James 1:19:20. You
would need a lot of patience, be swift to hear and slow to speak cause so many
people may judge you based on your pain, but just let it all go, and refuse to
react in pain. THE SECRET TO STAYING BEAUTIFUL IS HIS WORD AND HIS PRESENCE!
The beautiful story continues….........<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Muchos Lovos! </span></div>Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-78498829479030410452012-03-17T11:00:00.000-07:002012-03-17T11:00:01.157-07:00Stop the Pain, NOT Your Life! 3<br />
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">You can read the previous posts <a href="http://fountainflows-omoregee.blogspot.com/2012/03/stop-pain-not-your-life-1.html" target="_blank">here</a> and <a href="http://fountainflows-omoregee.blogspot.com/2012/03/stop-pain-not-your-life-2.html" target="_blank">here</a></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Above all, I knew deep down in my
heart that all these emotions were not going to take me anywhere, I couldn’t
even pray, and I knew that I couldn’t carry on that way for too long. I
wouldn’t have lasted long if I had carried on that way for long, cause I was
going to wreck my mind and health If I so did, I had to wake up to REALITY, I
had to face myself in the mirror and tell myself the <b>stark undiluted truth</b> –There is absolutely nothing that could be
done to change or rectify what had already happened, it was already in the past
and I had to treat it as such - THE PAST!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">I kept telling myself over and
over “It’s all in the past, my past will not affect my present or my future and
I choose to let go and move on”. I wasn’t exactly liking or feeling what I was
saying, but I just kept saying it. With the help of my senior pastor, I kept
pushing ahead. I would remember him, and I would push further. His help I cannot
over emphasize because he was there for me. By choosing to let go, I was able
to do a proper evaluation of what had happened, I took responsibility for where
I had made mistakes, I took to lessons that could be learned, new and better
ways of doing things if I was given another opportunity and if I was to go
through that situation and circumstance again. I generally learnt to be a
better person. Somehow, the knowledge and realization that I had become a
better person for it made me start feeling good about myself. That feeling of
‘goodness’ however little did a lot of magic, and it did me a world of good. I
was beginning to get excited that I had become a better person. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">I started practicing God’s
presence again on my own, I would call God, and not be able to say another
word, sometimes I would only be able to say “God help me please” but I stayed
there. I would stay there and all I would be able to do is playing a song
repeatedly and not be able to sing it
but I just kept staying there. It later became a heart to heart communication
with God, I still could not say a word to God, but my heart started communing
and crying out to God. In my heart, I would pour out my heart to God telling
Him exactly how I felt leaving no details out. I told Him that I didn’t feel
like talking to Him, but that I didn’t have a choice; I told Him that I wanted
to go have random sex, I told Him that I felt very lonely and I needed someone
to hold me, I told Him that I was angry at Him for watching me all those
painful years, I told Him that I wanted to just disappear and just relocate to
another side of the planet where I could start a fresh clean life with no
histories, I told Him all sorts, but above all, I told Him that doing all these
things won’t help me, and I needed Him to help me. I told Him that I needed Him
DESPERATELY because I didn’t want to go crazy with the loneliness or the pain
and anguish. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">In dealing with the pain, I
couldn’t cry for a long time, but in one of those heart to heart sessions with
God, I broke down in heart wrenching sobs. Believe it or not, I cried in a way
that I have never cried all my life. The tears just kept flowing non-stop and
it was almost like I couldn’t stop myself from crying. All the tears that I had
bottled up whilst trying to play the ‘macho gurl’ came springing forth
non-stop, and the tears continued throughout that day, after which I actually
began to feel alive and better again. I had become broken by the presence of
the Holy Spirit, and He had begun a good work in me on every side.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">In my sessions with God, my
talking started gradually and in His presence I got my daily dose of strength
to face the world and the healing to embrace the future! Wow! Because God
lives, we can always face tomorrow, my healing process had kicked into gear
one! I received the comfort of the Holy Spirit!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">In His continued presence, I
started experiencing His love again; I experienced His PEACE, His JOY. I felt
so much love and joy that I couldn’t hide it anymore. Left, right, center,
people said I was glowing, they wanted to know the secret, but alas, it was GOD
AND GOD ALONE!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Guess what?! Things in my life
started responding to the change in me. The joy of the Lord filled me so much
and transformed me such that I got better at my job in the office, got redeployed
and promoted to a department that I had always wanted to build a career in; I
made new friends and generally just moved on in every sphere. I gave out most
of my old stuff and I started living my excited rebranded life. Yay!!! I was
back, not just back, but BIGGER AND BETTER!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">My change was so evident that
people (even those that condemned me) became curious as to what was going on in
my life. I became a mystery they needed to unravel.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">I really can’t say that this is
the exact day, method or style God used in seeing me through, all I did was to
hang in there with Him and I just REFUSED to let go. <b>Nobody can do this part
for you my dear; you have to DO IT YOURSELF!</b> The best people can do for you
will be to try and be there but you have to win this battle yourself in the
place of prayer and fellowship with God. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Attitude: </span></b><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">You
may be going through deep pain, but keep your head above water, and don’t let
that pain make you become a pain to other people. Your attitude must be top
notch such that you don’t make matters worse for yourself. Be humble enough to
receive grace and strength from our Father, and maintain the right attitude
towards people too.<b> </b>It’s God and GOD
ALONE peeps; only Him can do that which He alone as God can do. Don’t
misunderstand this for Accountability; you need the right people around you to
hold you up when you are down and hold your hand while the battle is raging,
but ultimately, only GOD HEALS AND RESTORES COMPLETELY! Don’t let go, just hang
in there.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">The arm of flesh will fail you if
you trust in them, it failed me BIG TIME! I didn’t have any other choice but to
face God squarely, and I stayed there, even when it didn’t make sense to me. I
had nowhere else to go for succor or strength. The beauty of it all was that,
He didn’t leave me, He didn’t forsake me, He didn’t get tired of me, He didn’t
give up on me, instead, He HEALED ME, HE RESTORED ME, HE GAVE ME BACK A BIGGER
AND BETTER LIFE, HE FILLED MY MOUTH ONCE AGAIN WITH SO MUCH SINGING, HE GAVE ME
NEW STEPS OF REJOICING, HE GAVE ME NEW REASONS TO DANCE, HE GAVE ME SO MUCH JOY
and guess what? It CAN ONLY GET BETTER, because the path of the just is like a
shining light that shines brighter and brighter unto the perfect day!
Halleluiah.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Some of the scriptures that
helped me are: James 5:14-16; Eccl.4:9-10; 1Cor.14:4; James 1:2-4,
James1:19-20; James 4:8, 1Peter 2:24 and Jer. 29:11-13.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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this context, it means submitting to people that have been placed over you as
spiritual leaders/elders or pastors. I did that by leveraging on the
relationship I had established with my pastors which allowed me to be open to them
about my issues. I maintained this openness during my trying times by consistently
speaking to my senior pastors about the situation of things. They were aware of
my pain, and they helped a great deal. The pastors were always willing to hear
everything I had to say even times when I did not have anything to say and all
I needed was just a shoulder to lean on. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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form of accountability is to your friends that are mature and have integrity.
They play a key role as well, because your pastors and spiritual leaders would
not always be available as they are usually very busy and need to attend to so
many other people and things, but your true friends whom you relate to on the
same level would always have time for you and be able to understand and go through
with you on your level. They play a vital role that your pastors cannot play.
It’s important to always have the right association of friends around you. They
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received from these relationships in my life kept me going and I knew that I
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Accept what has happened as the past and let it go! <b>Acceptance is KEY! </b>Evaluate the situation and learn from it without
playing the blame game. Assess the whole event objectively; take responsibility
where you ought to and MOVE ON! Make up your mind not to let the past ruin your
present or your future, and most importantly, FORGIVE whoever is involved that
has caused you pain, grief or hurt. Be it yourself, forgive yourself and move
on. Forgiveness starts with a conscious decision and it helps you to let go and
move on. Without forgiveness, you won’t be able to move on completely and you
would be scarred for as long as the unforgiveness remains. No amount of
unforgiveness can repay how you feel, so what’s the point?!!! Let it go! You
deserve a better life, not one filled with anger or bitterness. You are too
much for all that crap!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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conscious decision to forgive, I realized that with time I started praying for
the parties involved, instead of hating them and casting blames. I made excuses
for them, and I just moved on. I also forgave myself for the mistakes I made
and I kept improving myself, turning to God’s word to renew my mind like never
before and I depended solely on the Holy Spirit. It was a tough one, but God’s
grace saw me through. I had done a profound evaluation of the whole process and
I had learnt and grown. It became my sincere heart desire for the parties
involved to learn and grow too, and the only way I could reach out to them was
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event, but there was still pain and grief somewhat and I still lacked my
energy, the zeal to live life was nowhere to be found. You may say to yourself
“How sure am I that she even knows how I feel or the depth of what I am going
through?” Well, I may not know exactly how you feel, but believe me when I say
that I have felt deep excruciating soulful pain, and I have dealt with pain,
and here I am today standing and sharing my victory over it. When I had that
ordeal, I seriously had no clue as to how I was going to face the world, the
society, church folks, my family members or even my everyday life. I literally
thought that the earth was going to open up and swallow me, because truly I
felt that there was no point living anymore. I struggled with so much hurt,
pain, low self-esteem, rejection, anger, depression, hatred, betrayal,
condemnation and regret. So many conflicting emotions and thoughts raged
through my heart piercing my every moment. It was a period of torture for me. I
felt so stupid at having “wasted” tangible years of my youthful life at
something the court dissolved! Did it mean that I had willfully just thrown
about 4/5years of my life into “nothingness”? I was inconsolable. I felt like a
huge failure, like what on earth was I thinking or doing all these years, to
what end??? Wow! That was a blow that I felt for a while. I remember each time
I had to appear in court, I left the courtroom with the memory of the eyes of
the judge, several lawyers, the sociologist, the psychologist, and members of
the public in court on my frame as I stood within the box barely hearing my own
words waiting for the verdict. It seemed as if my whole world had just
collapsed! The future seemed so bleak, and I literally felt like I was not
going to make it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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family member<a href="" name="_GoBack"></a>s revolted against me at having soiled the
Christian name and faith of the home, some were of the opinion that I was very
stupid and had not represented the family name well. Alas! I was a disgrace to
them. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">It was so bad I couldn’t pray,
and truth be told, there were times I couldn’t even be bothered, but other
times, I knew that I had to get back to my altar, because it was my place of
strength, wisdom and power, my prayer house, my place of fulfillment…so what
did I do? I felt very numb and I was in deep shock, I couldn’t feel a thing, it
was so hard for me to accept that life would just continue and go on as usual,
I would go to church and wouldn’t hear a word that was preached or said, but
somehow I knew that I had to hang in there for my dear life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Each time I listen to Deitrick Haddon sing those words, I nod in total agreement that life sometimes can feel like all hell let loose on you and you are so down and strung out because you cant seem to figure a way out. I will be sharing a story that has encouraged me and taught me a thing or two about how to get up and back on the horse when life knocks me down. It is inevitable that we would get the ugly part of life, we would go through trials, storms, tests, tribulation BUT we can be victorious and come out stronger and better if we set out to be. This is told by one who has been there..............................</span></div>
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of people go through pain, life’s issues, life’s challenges, they oftentimes do
not know how to deal with the pain or go about it. Sometimes the pain is so
heart wrenching and cuts so deep that they become numb and estranged to themselves.
Sometimes it is cloudy and biting, and all it wants to make one do is go
drinking, go have sex, go on a wild dancing spree or generally do something
crazy like take out the feeling of pain on someone or something or even
generally indulge one’s emotions by snapping at people, eating junk, going on a
spending spree and not caring how much you spend and generally losing every
sense of care and caution!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Usually, in
most cases, people around can’t even help because they do not appreciate what one
is going through. This often brings a feeling of loneliness which makes one
feel worse especially when these people from whom love, understanding and
comfort are expected turn round to condemn and even avoid. Some people do not
know how to handle these feelings and so begin to contemplate suicide. Are the options mentioned above really the
best way to deal with pain, or are they the only ways to deal with the pain…do people
really have to take out their frustrations this way? Are these the only ways to
have a clean cut breakthrough out of the pain? Could this be the only way to
get closure on the past? Trust me, the answer is NO!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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my personal experience with you and how I became BETTER, STRONGER, and WISER
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young, born-again, spirit-filled, beautiful, purposeful, gainfully-employed
lady but my marriage just ended in a divorce court! Did that sound funny? Well,
it happened. I lost a marriage that I had invested about 4/5 years of my youthful
life into. Like every other marriage, we had issues but I was sure things could
and would get better but the marriage came to a point where it couldn’t go on
anymore…things just got too complicated and unfortunately, the marriage had to
be dissolved in court! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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than the issues we had in the marriage which were hurting enough, the
dissolution hit me deep, it ate into my very soul and it cost me my sleep for
several weeks. Going through that whole experience wasn’t fun for me at all, I
felt like doing all the things I mentioned above: indulging my emotions by going
on a wild alcohol spree, having random sex, eating a whole house down, slapping
and screaming down the next person that would dare ask me what happened and all
sorts of confusing emotions were constantly raging at my heart. At that time,
it was an ordeal I never would have imagined I would go through. I remember
finishing a whole bucket of ice-cream in a sitting (please don’t open your eyes
wide in surprise, I look back, and I am amazed myself), I also remember
finishing a whole pack of cornflakes, golden morn, several bars of chocolates, a
tin of Milo plus regular food all in two (2) days! Thank God I did not </span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">loose</span><span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;"> my shape like I had lost every sense of
right judgment; I also had to deal with low self-esteem. My situation made me
feel ugly and insecure from within. This made me almost fall prey into the arms
of a friend of mine. He was so kind and gentle towards me, at that time, he was
my rock and he helped me a lot when I needed a friend, he always covered my
tracks so well for me, he became my best pal. It took God for me not to have
sex with him; it was a tough one, but all thanks to God I overcame…whew! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">All these feelings I felt were
beyond the surface, they ran deep and I am grateful to God who did not leave me
or give up on me. He saw me through it all, and even when I fell, He caught me
right on time! During this time that I was feeling all these conflicting
emotions, I knew deep down in my spirit that giving in to my emotions would
only make matters worse, and not better, but even at that, wisdom was not wise to
me at all, and I was ready to damn every consequence but… Yes, there was a “BUT”
and it was the only thing that kept ringing in my head and kept me from and in
check that I did not go overboard: ACCOUNTABILITY!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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No matter how much it seems that no one understands you or feels your pain, <b>NEVER TRY TO GO THROUGH PAIN ALONE</b>! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">James 5: 14-15 says “Is anyone
among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray
over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of
faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has
committed sins, he will be forgiven”. Friends, the prayer of the elders also
works for the sick in heart. Maximize your spiritual elders/leaders.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">Also, Eccl. 4:9-10 says that “Two
are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor, for if
they fall, one will lift up his companion, <b><i>but woe to him who is alone when he falls</i></b>,
for he has no one to lift him up”. This scripture encourages you to have
someone that can hold you up, even when you are down. I strongly believe that
one of the major reasons why I didn’t completely go wild and loose, was because
even when I couldn’t pray for myself, I had people praying for me and so I was
not alone. I had people who were lifting me up in prayers especially my pastors
and some of my friends. These people are very dear to me now and I am sure God
will reward them bountifully! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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had an established relationship with the people above and on the same level
with me in life with whom I was and stayed open during the whole ordeal. This
was my first stage of RECOVERY which was going on even when it seemed things
were going from bad to worse. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Cambria, serif;">To be continued...........</span></div>Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-55439505246867964162012-02-10T04:34:00.000-08:002012-02-10T04:34:34.853-08:00Christian Playa<br />
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never. I am sorry I have been off this space for about 5 months, a lot kept me
away and I cannot apologize enough for not posting anything all this while.
Sometimes, when we wish for things, we don’t fully comprehend what they can do
to us, but I’m happy to say Omoregee is back! Faithfuls, I thank you and I
wanna to let you know the Flow Bearer will be bringing to you the Flows from
the Fountain more often now.</span></span></div>
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meets gal, Guy likes Gal and approaches her for a relationship. Gal gets to
know Guy, starts too really like him and has more or less fallen for him. Guy
reaches that point where he is supposed to commit but for some reasons (and
trust, they were a whole lot of them) he be holding back. Gal is patient and
doing the right things to be sure she is not the one holding him back from commitment.
Then some lady asks Gal if it’s ok for her sister to date Guy seeing he’s asked
her out and she noticed Gal and Guy are ‘good friends’? <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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be chilling on her own, doing her own thing, minding her business when Dude
comes along and is acting like he all love struck. Babe finally decides to
notice him and actually starts to like him. They getting along fine, Dude can’t
stop talking about how great Babe is and how she fits his ideal woman picture and
also about how he can’t ask her out just yet because he needs time to sort himself
out. Babe is like fine, do what you gotta do, sort yourself out, then Babe
finds out Dude actually already got himself sorted out……..with someone else…….<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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is hot on Sisi’s chase, and is bent on catching her, been on it for awhile
actually…..he does catch her and they got a good thing going on. All of a
sudden, Bobo is forming busy and Sisi is trying to be understanding but how do
you understand after 4 years of being together, Bobo says you are not
compatible? Especially when there’s someone else in the equation?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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and Lass are feeling each other alright; the feeling is mutual and something
seems in the works. Lad is saying all the right things, doing all the right
things and Lass gradually lets her resistance go day by day but just at about
the time when Lass asks for a real commitment, Lad suddenly don’t speako no
English……..he dumb all of a sudden and can’t comprehend what she is asking for.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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and Max have been in a relationship for 3 years, but in the past 3 months,
Missy has seen little of Max and has been worried, but she is also preparing
for her final exam which puts a lot of pressure on her. Then she gets a call
few weeks to exam, someone telling her Max would be getting married the next
Saturday and she wasn’t the bride. Of course, she had a resit.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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actually happened! Christian folks y’all! It’s a trend I have observed
nowadays, playas in the church! I know we have a mixture of different people in
the congregation, its God’s house and all His children are welcome but I
thought a real Christian brother was supposed to bend it like Christ? <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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good intentions, and I want to believe they are so, but in the end, they turn
out to be users and a deceitful lot. I don’t want to believe they set out to
toil with a woman’s emotions and feelings; I don’t want to believe they start
out to be this way, but somewhere along the line, this is who they are……when
they do what they do. When it’s all said and done, the intentions don’t matter,
what matters is what has been done. Brother, get it together!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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before he makes a commitment. I understand about a man taking out time to study
his prospect to see if she is right for him, what I don’t understand though is
how a man can be pursuing 2/3 women at the same time? Am I way out of my cocoon’s
nest to think it is wrong to do this? You see this ain’t like shopping for a
house or school, there are options alright but the consideration should be done
BEFORE pursuing that option, for once you are in pursuit of your prospect and
you also pursue other options at the same time, you come across as confused. A
male friend once said to me, ‘if a guy can be singular in his pursuit of a
woman, he is most likely to get her’ I wondered about this and the supporting
ideology. I asked him to explain and he said, ‘there is a way a guy comes
across when his eyes are on one prize. You can see the seriousness and
sincerity in him, he gives it his all because he intends to win’. Ladies are
very emotional beings and the guys know this, if you are not sure about an
option, it happens, take time out to properly consider but try not to get
involved emotionally until you have clarity because things are not pretty when
emotions and expectations are messed up. God is good brother, but you will reap
what you sow, Watch it! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">And why oh why is it difficult to pay the prize when you
been all up in the product? You have been enjoying the relationship but when it’s
time to commit, you turn around and run. If a man has no intention to go all
the way, I believe he has no business coming close, really. Emotions and
feelings as fleeting as they may be should not be toiled with; the effects can
be very astounding. It’s different when along the way, you find out things you can’t
cope with or issues that present incompatibility. No biggie, do the right and
honourable thing, have a conversation, dust up and keep it moving but when you
want to enjoy the goods without paying the prize, that’s just wrong. Yes, I
know there are some ladies who give it up and make it so easy, but dear Christian
Brother, should that bring out the playa in you? What would Jesus do?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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and some sweet words, we like to hear how we rock his world and how we are
wonderful, amazing and any man would be lucky to have us, but it’s about time
we stop listening and start watching. Watch his actions; do they rhyme with his
talk? Watch what he isn’t saying, don’t ignore that inner voice to check that
stuff you noticed, the inner voice is usually right. There’s no justifying what
a playa does but the truth actually is if he has no one to play with, there ain’t
gonna be anyone getting played. Stop letting it go the minute a brother smiles
at you, smile back and keep it moving, if he wants you, let him chase you and
while he is chasing, be sure he gat what it takes to buy before you sell out,
no point crying over spilt milk. We can keep our emotions in check till we are
sure it is for real. We have a lot to protect, our self esteem, our dignity,
our hearts- the essence of our beings, our future, our destiny and if some
brothers don’t recognize the importance of these things, we owe it to ourselves
to teach ‘em and let them know that a woman is a treasure not to be toiled
with. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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like me very much: D. Well, can’t blame ‘em…………I leave ‘em eyez rolling, feet
stamping n head shaking…..hehehehe. This is because I am an extremely choosy
person n usually it takes a long while before I make a choice. You see, I like
to sample all options available to be sure I am getting the best that there
is…….good value for my money. Then after narrowing down my options comes the
herculean task of choosing the winner. It is not an easy feat you see, because
just when I think I have finally made a choice, I notice something in another
shop that makes me second guess my first choice. This is why I like to have
company when I shop…..a second opinion helps even if I wear ‘em out n leave ‘em
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different things makes it all interesting. What I decide is fabulous may be
crap to you but the beauty of it is…….it’s my choice, I get to live with it n so
I get a say….it’s my call. And so when you make choices and decisions, it is
imperative that the focus is on you- your ideologies, your values, your desire,
your dream, your vision, your life. Never make decisions to please anyone- not
your parents, nor your pastor, nor your friends, not even your ego. We need to
realize that after all is said and done, we get to live with our choices…..so
you best be choosing right. Note though, it is wise to honour people in making
decisions, but it shouldn’t be focused on them…..if you understand what I mean.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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find it distasteful or I notice a new arrival which looks fierce n seems to have
my name on it. Now, my budget is tight but I can’t live with my first purchase,
not after seeing the new looker…so, what do I do? For some shops, I could
return n buy the new catch or I sell to someone and buy the other with the
money from the sales. Either ways, I can get rid of my first buy…….I’m not
stuck with it…..great innit?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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you make a purchase, you begin to see other options you feel you should have
gone for, other items become more attractive and you start to feel like you
didn’t buy right. You get home n you are unhappy with the items in the bag. When
I feel this way, I literarily have to encourage myself n say Mo’ you made a
good choice gal. You took your eyes to the market. Then I get my ‘company’ to
affirm that I made a good choice so I can breathe easy n enjoy my new buy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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to commit to a relationship and a person…….you suddenly begin to notice other
options that seem very attractive n like a better deal? You feel you should
have been more patient in choosing, especially if you had to choose from quite
a number of options. Especially after you have been together for awhile……say
2/3 years, and are probably having issues or some distress…….you suddenly get
the notion that you can do better n hey! You probably can……..but, how sure are
you?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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are down, not pretty at all. ‘ The proof of the pudding lies in the
eating’………what if you can’t eat this pudding before buying, then what…..what do
you do? How do you stay strong, firm and true to your choice without betraying trust?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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relationship, committed to another but cannot seem to stop thinking about that colleague
or that one you met at the retreat, business meeting, club who seems to really
understand you and connect with you. You have a rewarding relationship yet you
find yourself drawn to another n it seems like a better deal….you begin to
think, I can do better, this is more like ‘it’, this is what I need and then
you decide to switch…..but, just before you do, take a minute to consider some
odds.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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application. You are dealing with a human being with feelings and emotions, in
a situation that can direct the course of your life. The ish is, many a times
its all an appearance…..it seems like the new option is the way to go, but then
you have to ask yourself why you made your first choice initially? You need to
go back to the foundation of your choice. What influenced it? What guided it?
Upon what was it based? What were your convictions? What made him/her stand
out? The answers to these questions will help you see clearly. They will remind
you about the genesis of your choice. The truth is, there are always options, but
understanding our values which influence our choices will help us stick to n
honour them. What’s more, when you have a word- a revealed conviction about
your choice, it helps to stick to it against all odds and distractions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">For how long shall you switch? So, when the next ‘real deal’
comes along, you move again? How rewarding is that? Hey guys, I love you but
errrrrrr this is peculiar to you. The good book agrees with me- Mal 2: 12-15.
You can’t seem to get enough of the babes. You want to keep your commitment yet
pursue other attractions and you don’t expect friction? You have a steady babe
whom you intend to marry but you make room for some side shows…….you gotta be a
man right? Where is trust? Why is it called commitment? It’s natural to be
attracted to other people, that’s not a crime but what you do with that
attraction is the clause. Not all attractions are meant to be pursued, have
some self control. The real strength of a man is in his ability to stick to one
woman and not cause a lot to ‘trip’. Manage your attractions, control them.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Cambria","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">It’s ok to get tired of your relationship. It’s ok to meet
someone else you prefer. It’s ok to want a change; at least you haven’t made a
marriage covenant yet. There’s no crime in all these, but do what you have to
do honorably. People are not items that get swapped on a whim. If you want
someone else, end it with the first one and move on. If you are tired and you
want a change, do the right thing. Your commitment makes you unreachable to
other prospects, that’s why it’s called a commitment!!! Perhaps I’m old school,
maybe I’m just too opinionated, whatever……all I’m saying is, if you are
committed to another, pray honour it and treat that person with the respect
they deserve, like you would want yourself treated. If you wanna pursue other
attractions, end your commitment and let it live to its name. When people think they can eat their cake n have it, they end up having no cake at all. <span> </span>While you are committed, its ok to be
attracted to other options, but oh so not ok to pursue n explore them. My ten
kobo! :D<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-92152352404352952142011-08-10T03:33:00.000-07:002011-08-10T03:39:47.204-07:00To Wanna be Starting Something……<div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 27px;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.theepochtimes.com/n2/images/stories/large/2009/04/04/30445576_No:Yes.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="265" src="http://www.theepochtimes.com/n2/images/stories/large/2009/04/04/30445576_No:Yes.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Holla peeps! Miss me? :D<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">It’s been so long, too long! I sincerely apologize for being MIA. At first, I totally lost my writing mojo and just when Mo’ was about to ‘get her groove back’, work became really engaging. My boss recently got promoted and so it’s been a helluva of a workload, additional duties for me and here’s me trying to balance and get acquainted with the new responsibilities which gives me time for nothing more but work, work n some more work. I did try to do blog rounds whenever I could catch some CP time but I know I have missed a lot of gist! Oh well, it’ll get better, soon *fingers crossed* Meanwhile, here’s the flow this time- To Wanna be starting something…….. Enjoy!<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Ok, could you stop the wacko Jacko moves in your mind right now and stop humming for a bit to answer this- Who sets out to build a house and doesn’t stop to first consider its cost? Seriously, who does that? Or who sets his hand to a business and doesn’t stop to consider/envisage what it would entail? No one you know right? Didn’t think so too.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">To embark on a fruitful journey, planning and cost evaluation are imperative. From saving for the trip, to making reservations, to shopping and packing up for the trip, it would require good planning to actualize a fruitful and rewarding trip, most of the time. Same as wanting to write an exam….we have to prepare for it to do great in it. ‘He who fails to plan, plans to fail’; this saying ain’t a cliché…it’s the gospel truth my brethren.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">So, boy meets girl, and they are really feeling each other, the sparks are there, the chemistry is very on point and amongst all other prospects around them, they have never felt anything as profound as what they feel for each other. So, they decide to take it to the next level and make it official, they become an item.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I ask again, is it ok to begin to build a house just because you desire to or have the funds for it? Is it okay to buy an expensive wristwatch on your tight budget just because you like it? Is it ok to change your major like four times, just because your interest shifts? Is it also expedient to start a relationship just because you have feelings for each other?<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Emotions are powerful and can decide a person’s mood and life, same as your thoughts. While feelings can be very profound, they usually are also very fleeting and misleading. One cannot afford to base his/her decisions on feelings, that’s a danger alert right there. What happens when the feeling is gone? When you begin to see clearly because the rain is gone? I cannot help but think that perhaps if people stopped to consider the cost and evaluate the dynamics of starting a relationship before committing to it, the number of breakups, divorces and casualties would reduce.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: red; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">A relationship shouldn’t be based on what you feel for that person or how you feel about the person, it should be more about what you know about the person. A relationship should be founded on a number of convictions which should be focused and based on compatibility…..can two walk together except they agree? <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">A friend of mine recently had some boy drama. At least five guys were all around her, seeking to date her, but she particularly was drawn to one and as they interacted she found out she really liked him…….they were just about to make it official when an incidence occurred to cause a break, boy came back asking if they could still be an item and my girl told him she’d consider it. So, she did consider it and it was leaning in the direction of her feelings for him, but thank God for the prayer radar! When dude passed through that radar, he didn’t come through. Turns out he was just a two timing scumbag who was over 30 but had the maturity of an 18-year old! Now, my friend would have eventually discovered that about him, but if she hadn’t been patient with her feelings, if she hadn’t managed her emotions, she would have suffered not only a break up, but a waste of her energy, time and resources oh and some heartache to go with it.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I’m just saying dear people do not let your feelings and emotions decide your actions and decisions, let us try to manage our emotions and act based on what we know and not how we feel. To wanna be starting a relationship, I’m not saying your feelings don’t matter, of course they do! I would never go out with a guy I don’t have feelings for, what I mean though is that the feelings aren’t enough to even start. Back it up with a number of convictions, how compatible are you on many levels? Does he/she complement you well? We should make our decisions because of what we know rather than what we feel…..don’t just start out and see how it goes, if the foundation be faulty, I tell you ain’t building nothing, it would all crumble in due time, don’t build your house without counting its cost.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Give it time, time heals all diseases. Let your feelings and emotions pass through a lot of radars to see if it develops into something more substantial, see if it’s stable, see if it stands, see if you are not deluded. Time will reveal a lot to you. Now, I know there’s only so much you could get to know about a person, but the message is to know just about enough that you need to know to be convinced. It’s relative and that’s where values come to play- talk for another day. I also know that by giving it time, it doesn’t mean the relationship would work out, but the difference is that when you are not controlled by your emotions, you can make rational decisions. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out perhaps for some issues or reasons, you would have had a fruitful and enjoyable time together and can end it amicably. Save yourself some heartache baby, don’t start something only to end it 3 months later, oh that happens, and Ido know some. You feeling the boy/girl? Cool, take it easy and take him/her through a lot of radars. If he/she comes through, then you are good to go. Hey! It’s just my opinion…….:D<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><i><b>Muchos lovos!</b></i><o:p></o:p></span></div>Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-92050939943135143022011-06-22T04:31:00.000-07:002011-06-23T02:44:11.260-07:00This is for you…….mama’s boy.<div class="MsoNormal"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://s3.hubimg.com/u/265170_f248.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://s3.hubimg.com/u/265170_f248.jpg" width="235" /></a></div><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Mothers are special. The things they do for a child, the sacrifices they make, the lengths they go to, the burdens they bear, oh, and the pain! Hours roll into days, screams and well sometimes the curses just to birth a child. The scares, the worries, the sleepless nights and the denials; characteristics of motherhood. A certainty is- they always say it is worth the entire ordeal. They do not seem to mind going through all they do because the satisfaction and joy in watching a child grow n develop is immeasurable. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Given all that a mother goes through to bring up her child to be relevant n on point, one may say that it is not surprising that she may be over protective and jealously guard her ‘investment’ from predators! Who dares fault her? Were this people there when she went through all that she did to train her baby? Did they bear the cost? How dare they tell her to let go n back off? They must be high on something eh? He who pays the piper should dictate the tune innit? Well, a mother can only do so much, but when it comes to marriage, as hard as it may be, she needs to back off to an extent, n do her guarding 007, James Bond style! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">You may ask, what about fathers? I’m not focusing on the dads because even though they also play vital roles in their children’s lives, given few exceptions, I find out the bond isn’t usually as strong n tight as you will find it is with mothers n their kids. Perhaps it’s a gender thing, perhaps its because they didn’t carry the pregnancy n go through labor, whatever it is, it appears the bond between a mother n her child is usually strong n unbreakable. I mean, when extended family issues arise between a couple, it usually is about the mother-in-law!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">So, a guy meets the woman of his dreams, grows to love her and marries her. She is supposed to now become his numero uno, his focus, and his queen….together, they are to build a family. Supposed, but not always the case. Okay, rewind and let’s check where this guy is coming from. He probably lost his father at a tender age n his mom struggled to cater for his needs. Perhaps his own story is about the mother that had to sell her jewellery n starve to see him through school. Whatever the scenario, in his opinion, his mom got him to where he is and he owes her everything n of course her word is ‘yes n amen’. How nice, quite touching, very noble but I’m telling you this kind of thinking might be his undoing.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Before you trip n mis-understand me, I’m not saying a guy shouldn’t be grateful to his parents or mom particularly for her labor of love, I’m not saying he should disregard her because he is married, I’m not saying she becomes less important because he took a wife……all this girl is saying is, a man should be able to define both positions clearly n audibly without any interference……the positions of his wife n mother. What am I about? Ok, take a chill pill n let’s see shall we?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">The positions of a wife and mother are two very important and unique roles in a man’s life. One comes before the other. If the first one messed it up, the other would have to pay dearly for it, but if she did a fine job, the other enjoys the fruit of her labor. Perhaps this is why some mothers find it difficult to let their daughters-in law enjoy their sons; because they feel they did all the sowing! It may be a natural feeling, but is it Godly? <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">‘And a man shall leave his parents and cleave to his wife……and they shall become one.’</span></span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"> Forgive me, but I personally think the Word should have said ‘leave his mother’, really. I say this because many a men n women are still attached to their mama’s apron strings. Tied and all knotted up……..not willing to let go. Mama makes all the decisions for them, mama decides who their friends are, mama determines what school n course they study. Mama’s opinion is the way forward. Without mama, there’s no decision making, she’s like an oracle that has to be consulted, she gives the verdict. Their home is run based on her template and if he can wing it, she would determine what meals should be served! I believe mothers have noble intentions towards their kids but if some boundaries are overstepped, hey, trouble is in town!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">A man that cannot manage his mom and her influences is putting his home in jeopardy. Most, if not every mother will want to interfere in the affairs of her son’s home, but I believe it behooves the man of the house to handle his business. There can never be two captains in the same ship, that would only birth chaos because the crew would be confused on whose orders to follow. If you ask me, the way I picture it is like a relay race…..with the eye on the prize. The focus is to see the man fulfill his God-given purpose and be fulfilled. Mama started the race, and at a particular point, it’s time to pass the baton to wifey. Now, in a relay race, once the baton is passed, the one who passed it has done his/her part and leaves the other, hoping and praying that he/she would come through. If he/she tries to interfere, the umpire blows the whistle and disqualifies that team. The goal hence goes down the drain; prize is lost.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Best shot? Partnership, work together. Once the common goal has been identified- to help this man be all that he would be, mama and wifey should partner up, each respecting the other and sticking to her part of the deal. Guyz need to realize that no matter how much your wife loves your mom; she doesn’t want her running her home. She may be grateful for her advice, tips and insight, but she doesn’t want mama calling the shots. The challenge most guyz face is trying to balance his affection between both of them, so one does not feel deficient. Hey, good call, but I ask, if a woman can make her husband her priority n focus, over her family and children, why is it hard for the man to do the same? Why does it always have to feel like a competition between mama n wifey? You don’t cook like my mom, you don’t know how to make it like mom does, I like it the way mom does it….etc. News flash! She’s never probably gonna do it like mama does, so get used to it! If she’s nice, she may be willing to learn from mama so she can please you, but hey……there’s no point trying to make her feel inadequate by comparing her to mama……..I wouldn’t do that if I were you!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I know of scenarios where the mom determines how much her son gives for monthly upkeep, where every career decision he makes is inclined to her without caring how the wife feels about it, where whatever his mom says, whether right or wrong takes pre-eminence over the affairs of the home. There’s no way the husband-wife bond can be made strong with this. God wasn’t deluded when he gave that Word. That big step into marriage is the final bustop on parental manipulation. Yes, listen to them, by all means seek their advice, but at the end of the day, what counts and matters and is priority should be what you and your wife have to say to each other. A man marries his wife, not his mother. The wife is the major stakeholder in a man’s life. She bears his children and can make or mar him. Boy, you better wise up. Bitterness, resentment and grudges aint good spices to cook up your home with. I’m just saying, if you want the best out of your wife, don’t alienate her, don’t make her feel she’s in second place, don’t make her feel like her opinions have to be sanctioned by a third party…….if she can make you her number one, she expects to be yours. I am yet to meet a woman who likes to be second in her man’s heart. Even the polygamous wives will tell you it ain’t beans at all.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">If you have been careful to marry a good, Godly and ordained wife, she will love your mom just like you do…….she would be grateful to your mom because she knows without her influence, she wouldn’t have had you. So, bro, it’s on you to choose carefully and prayerfully and to define and manage both loves of your life. Oh, and while you are at it, it also would be nice if you can untie those apron strings bit by bit….till you are free. Hey, that’s the only way you are gonna get me, cos I am just so allergic to mama’s boyz! :D<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Yes, I am here!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">How av we been? I really really apologize (bended knees fo' realz) for not putting any post up for some weeks now......your gurl has been here n there, doing all sorts.....haven't even been able to visit blogs I follow like I would want to for a bit naw.....its not even funny! I have missed you all! Here's hoping it gets better........</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Fountain Flows is one year old this month! :D Should do a post to celebrate you guyz for believing n cheering on FF, she is indeed grateful for your support so far.....its been a very fulfilling n interesting blogging year n I look forward to greater thingz!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">The Nigerian Blogger Awards is on! I have done my nominations for blogs that fit different categories. To do the same, visit </span><a href="http://www.nigerianblogawards.com/register.php"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">the nomination page</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> and vote for your fav blogs.......I hope I am one of 'em :)</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This is kinda different from my usual posts n probably the shortest I have ever written.....ha ha, but I just didn't want to stay away till i can write a proper one......its been long enough really :(</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Nevertheless, a quick one:</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">As usual, (the fb pelzin that I am) i started a debate about kissing n pre-marital sex. God has called every believer to keep the bed undefiled i.e avoid pre-marital sex. Now, for those who want to avoid pre-marital sex, is it safe to kiss? Can you handle kissing without thinking about sex, touching n caressing? Is sex only about the act or its more about what goes on in your mind even before the act? </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I look forward to your engaging responses as always.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Till I come your way soon.....yes, real soon, do have a wonderful rest of the week! </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Muchos Lovos!</span>Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5575309866888642361.post-32946190640721353702011-05-17T03:32:00.000-07:002011-05-17T03:34:32.470-07:00Blogfest- A first!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">The rule says a favorite writer joke or a favorite job-related joke.....and since none of 'em readily comes to mind, I'll zoom for the last part of the rule that says my favorite joke or story! Enjoy!</span><br />
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</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">What am I saying? It’s simple. Let love guard n rule your heart but do not let it becloud your choice of a marital partner. Love is not blind, it can see pretty well. Have you seen pointers of future hitches n you have been ignoring it? You keep considering the fact that you really love this person but are you sure your love can handle it when it blows up in your face? You better ask somebody. In a nut shell, let pure, genuine n God-like love lead the way but don’t forget to take with you it’s brothers n essentials. They make the dish very palatable. Now, it doesn’t mean trouble won’t come even so, but then you have a common ground to deal with it. If the foundation be faulty, what can you do? I also say, if your building materials be faulty, where do you go? What do you do?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">P.S- Please excuse my long post, this issue has been on my mind for awhile n sure, I had a lot to say……*wink* LOL!</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Omoregeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00012192814709955219noreply@blogger.com10